Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

If you have little kids you might not have tackled this, but my step children are largely step adults, so I have had to straddle being candid and being a role model.

Years ago, attending one of my hippie schools, I was riding in a car with my best friend from 7th grade, her mom, two of her mom’s friends, and one of their kids. AS THEY PASSED AROUND A JOINT. I remember my friend’s mom, with total seriousness, asking me, “Does your mom allow you to get high?” Like it was watching a cartoon before bed. “Sure,” I said, wanting to look cool, and I took the joint from my friend. I had no idea what I was doing. But even then, I had the sneaking suspicion that this behavior was inappropriate for parents.

That friendship was short lived.

5 thoughts on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell

  1. What do you do when your 15 year old decides to try mushrooms and has a bad time of it? The good thing was that she came home to us and decided she didn’t want to do that again soon. The bad thing is SHE’S 15 AND EATING MUSHROOMS! Sigh. Just breath…

  2. Craig, in my 20’s I found that the friends who experimented young usually got done with it earlier. When I was still thinking something was fun they were over it. It’s so easy to have a bad trip, I would want my kids to call if they were bad tripping and I could talk them through it. By not flying off the handle I think you leave room for discussion. Better to be practical about he bad effects of drugs rather than, ‘you are a bad person”. good luck!

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