Comments on: Verbal Elder Abuse http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/ parents don't know what they are doing anyway, might as well laugh about it Wed, 16 May 2012 20:57:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Sarah http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1769 Sarah Wed, 08 Oct 2008 20:44:26 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1769 I spent 3 months in the hospital two years ago and most of the time I was treated respectfully - most of the nurses I had were about my age (34 at the time) so there was more of a peer-to-peer relationship. However, post one of my major surgeries, my husband was kept from me by a nurse who kept insisting that "I was a baby" - even though this "baby" was tracking her bloodwork numbers and communicating in full sentences despite being on high doses of painkillers, steroids and on a ventilator. Most healthcare workers are amazing - but you have to be watchful for yourself and for your loved ones. Keep fighting for their respect. I spent 3 months in the hospital two years ago and most of the time I was treated respectfully – most of the nurses I had were about my age (34 at the time) so there was more of a peer-to-peer relationship. However, post one of my major surgeries, my husband was kept from me by a nurse who kept insisting that “I was a baby” – even though this “baby” was tracking her bloodwork numbers and communicating in full sentences despite being on high doses of painkillers, steroids and on a ventilator.

Most healthcare workers are amazing – but you have to be watchful for yourself and for your loved ones. Keep fighting for their respect.

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1768 Daphne Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:53:59 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1768 Kelley, bless your heart. I do feel so lucky to have my family. Don't know what hell it must be for people who grow old alone and or without resources. So grateful my dad has his pension, savings, etc. Kelley, bless your heart. I do feel so lucky to have my family. Don’t know what hell it must be for people who grow old alone and or without resources. So grateful my dad has his pension, savings, etc.

]]> By: Kelley http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1767 Kelley Wed, 08 Oct 2008 19:33:29 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1767 Reading this has my emotions all in a bundle. Thank you for bringing this subject to the forefront! Such treatment has me absolutely enraged! I can't imagine my folks being treated in such a manner. Your family is precious and blessed that you can all stick together for each other. God Bless You! Reading this has my emotions all in a bundle. Thank you for bringing this subject to the forefront! Such treatment has me absolutely enraged! I can’t imagine my folks being treated in such a manner. Your family is precious and blessed that you can all stick together for each other. God Bless You!

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1763 Daphne Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:12:23 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1763 Thanks all. God, so many stories like this. My friends book who I blogged about, Mary Ellen Geist "measure of the heart". she too talks about how if she had not stayed with her dad during his knee surgery he would have died. I feel that America is like other countries I have heard about for years, in South America, etc. Where it is expected that a family member has to go with the patient into the hospital. And again, there are many great health professionals, super ones. But, it still pisses me off that they would speak to and treat my dad like that. Thanks all. God, so many stories like this. My friends book who I blogged about, Mary Ellen Geist “measure of the heart”. she too talks about how if she had not stayed with her dad during his knee surgery he would have died.
I feel that America is like other countries I have heard about for years, in South America, etc. Where it is expected that a family member has to go with the patient into the hospital.
And again, there are many great health professionals, super ones. But, it still pisses me off that they would speak to and treat my dad like that.

]]> By: Flipfloppingmamma http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1762 Flipfloppingmamma Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:58:07 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1762 Oh...how heartbreaking. The hosp staff over dosed my g'ma so she would sleep and leave them alone. She used to be a caregiver herself for the eldery in their homes so in her confused mind she wanted to get up and help others. We thought she was deing! We called everyone in for her last moments and then when the meds wore off she was back to herself. I was SO PISSED OFF!! It's so scary!! Oh…how heartbreaking. The hosp staff over dosed my g’ma so she would sleep and leave them alone. She used to be a caregiver herself for the eldery in their homes so in her confused mind she wanted to get up and help others.
We thought she was deing! We called everyone in for her last moments and then when the meds wore off she was back to herself. I was SO PISSED OFF!! It’s so scary!!

]]> By: amyz5 http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1761 amyz5 Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:26:47 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1761 daph, thank you so much for this post. i could write volumes on this topic!! daph, thank you so much for this post. i could write volumes on this topic!!

]]> By: Melissa, Multitasking Mama http://coolmom.com/2008/10/08/verbal-elder-abuse/#comment-1760 Melissa, Multitasking Mama Wed, 08 Oct 2008 17:04:43 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=1393#comment-1760 Great point! What people often don't realize is that speaking to a confused elderly person in a condescending tone and not validating how they are feeling (whether it is rational or not) will most often only exacerbate the behavior and escalate the problem. Good for your dad that he has someone advocating and watching out for him. To many seniors don't. Great point! What people often don’t realize is that speaking to a confused elderly person in a condescending tone and not validating how they are feeling (whether it is rational or not) will most often only exacerbate the behavior and escalate the problem. Good for your dad that he has someone advocating and watching out for him. To many seniors don’t.

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