6 thoughts on “Thankful

  1. I’m thankful for having a mother who cared enough and was committed enough to raise me to be a happy, well-adjusted adult. Don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t “perfect”, but damn did she overcome a whole bunch of obstacles and keep us on track.
    Oh yeah, and I’m thankful for really good veggie burgers too!

  2. I’m thankful for the Internet (although glad it didn’t exist when I was in college, or I might have flunked out), and for sites like this one and Dooce!! OK, so that’s my “thing we take for granted, like plumbing” thankful. . .

    My real thankfuls are for my family. For a wonderful, doting husband who makes my life possible, and for a beautiful, spirited, almost 3 yr old who takes my breath away and makes me laugh (when she’s not making me pull my hair out). I’m thankful for the life growing inside me, who will be joining us in May [although we’re not entirely sure where to put her — her sister this morning asked “where’s my baby sister gonna sleep??” She was not happy to learn that the guest bedroom – where we rendezvous in the middle of the night sometimes – is on the chopping block. But I digress. . ] I’m thankful for a big brother whose been a constant and positive influence on my life, and a big sister who sometimes frustrates me but always gets me. I’m thankful that my extended family is mostly healthy, and that those who are not have good insurance and doctors.
    I’m thankful for my job in this crappy economy, and very thankful to my dog Bailey for his wet, slobbery, unconditional love.

    And, oh yeah, I’m thankful my husband hasn’t had any more car accidents. He literally had 2 in one week with the same car two weeks ago — banging up first the left bumper, and then the right front corner of the car. He claims HE”S got pregnancy brain!!!

    Thanks Daphne — a good and timely post.

    PS – if it’s not too personal, I’m curious about how you are raising Viv, re: religion? I was baptized as a child, but raised with no formal religion. Have a clear memory as a small child of looking at some kids’ bible, having read the story of Genesis, and asking someone – my mom, I think – where God came from. . . no one had any answer (much less a good one), and I remember clicking the book shut, putting it back on the shelf, and thinking “that’s a nice story.” I’m 3/8 jewish on my mom’s side (maternal grandmother, of course, was the 1/8 missing), and as a young adult was functionally and legally adopted by my jewish aunt and uncle. While not “religiously” affiliated, I consider myself culturally jewish. My husband was raised Protestant (although baptized catholic), and through about 10 years ago was pretty observant. We have not, in the 7 years we’ve been together, done anything religious as a couple — although we have tried to find churches where I don’t feel like i’m participating in some kind of Kabuki theater and he often threatens to take our daughter with him on sunday ams. When sunday am comes around, however, there are about 4000 things he’d rather be doing then getting dressed and out the door to go to church. So with xmas coming up, our 3 year old is very santa and present obsessed . . . and my husband, correctly, pointed out this am that she needs to know “the true meaning of xmas.” And I’m like “which is??” And, “OK, but then we’re going to do Hannakah too” . . . but that’s mostly just competitively motivated. At the end of the day, I want her to intellectually understand what religion is, but I’m pretty sure I don’t want her to dogmatically adhere to any one thing. And I know that’s in conflict with the idea of exposing her at this age. . . I kinda want to just make up our own religion — I’d call it the “Church of the Golden Rule” that we could practice in the kitchen. If Elron Hubbard can do it, why not, right?

    Sorry to go on and on, but this is a BIG issue for me. . . and I’m curious about your views.

  3. Lisa, I hear you. I think I should do a vlog on that. hmm, maybe this afternoon. in a nutshell. it is an issue. I liked the community of a church or temple. I also think if one is raised with little knowledge of the bible -old and new- you miss a lot of references later on. like not knowing Shakespeare.
    my stop gap at the moment are the Christmas and Hannakuh books I have been reading to her. They are not religious per say. I will say she likes the Menorah idea.
    Certainly you can be secular and have morals. It’s how I was raised But, if I could find that perfect fit I would probably be a joiner as well.

  4. I would LOVE a vlog on this — mabye even a Momversation?? Heather certainly must have a thing or two to say about religion??

    I agree 100% about community — and that’s why I keep threatening to join a temple, because at the end of the day, my hubby and I gravitate more toward jews than toward non-jews. But he has that “i’m a fraud” feeling in temple the same way I have it in church. . .and there’s so much call and responsiveness that you can’t just sit and listen to the homily and enjoy the music and some tea afterwards.

    I was an english major, and used to joke that EVERYTHING i know about the bible i learned in an english class. . . you cannot read Blake (or shakespeare), certainly not Dante, without having some understanding of that subtext. And I was frequently handicapped by that. . . sometimes, infrequently, liberated but much more often handicapped.

    We have a bunch of “religious” children’s books that we were given last Easter, and even though it kinda makes me cringe, I read them to my daughter when she asks. . . and she totally asks. I’m not convinced she realizes that Jesus isn’t a character not unlike Elmo or Dora. :-)

  5. well, just to be a smart ass… I could say is he? It is also a story to teach us about how to conduct ourselves in society?

    I know it’s hard to find the right fit. New agey stuff can bug even more too. IT is a juicy topic and a big one.

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