December 5, 2008
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I can't have been the only woman who thought that motherhood would open doors, socially. You're pregnant, and you walk into a room full of other pregnant women. Friendship is a natch, right? Wrong.
Love when Vivian comes in and asks you what are you doing ? talking to a camera so funny .I also think its hard to make mommy friends . I try and then some of them are just too wierd for me . I later find out and then have a hard time getting rid of them .
That's so funny - and true. But it's no different, i find, than trolling for mom friends once your kid is born. Some are friendly, most are not. Some want to make new friends, some do not. It's all RANDOM (unlike the perfectly planned, always reliable, daily updates from my virtual friends, like you. Every day, rain or shine, there you are. I LOVE that!!)
I found your blog when I stumbled across momversations (love it, by the way) and I agree with everything you are saying here. I'm pregnant with my second child and all those prenatal classes that are even advertised as helping you to bond with other expectant mothers aren't that at all.
I'm due in March…I'll be your friend
This video is funny and so is Carly's comment. I'm not a mom myself, but I think it's difficult to make good (girl)friends period. Hope you find your pregnant soulmate soon
I think it's funny how when you're pregnant, you assume everyone sees this giant pregnant person strutting around, and they're all thinking, "ooh, pregnant person…look at her!"
But, when you're no longer pregnant, in fact, happily un-pregnant, those giant pregnant people are zero excitement, they just blend in with the crowd.
Maybe it's just me.
jess, maybe it's part of the special glow feel. Love al the comments here.
I forgot about trolling for mom friends with my newborn! got, gotta vlog about that. I think you can get soem buddies out fo those classes, but you have to go enough to click with someone. And just like romance, sometimes it's there and sometimes it's not. I was even more desperate for friends with my first pregnancy because I was working very little so I really needed someone to relate to!
Here's a vlog I'd like to see…what is it that you see in a woman that makes you click with her? I think alot of women need to be drawn out of their shells, or taught to trust again after a previous bad experience. And sometimes clicking with someone can mean you're perfectly co-dependent.
Who do you rule out automatically, and who makes the cut?
Oh yes, the "crabbies" I called them. Thank god we're past that now - although I still have to deal with the occassional preschool mom, and the middle school mom who is trying to be her daughter's b-f-f! ugh.
love this though.
When I was pregnant (this time last year) - and attending classes hoping to meet my mommy soulmate - I told my husband that I felt like I was a single in a nightclub all over again……"ooh did she just smile at me? maybe I'll smile back" "she looks nice - her - standing by the cookies, maybe I'll give her my number" . And I did give her my number, and was devastated when I didn't get a call back.
Like romance, the right one will come along when you're not looking and totally frazzled wearing sweatpants.
I know! Its so hard to make mommy friends! I get annoyed because other parents just let their kids do what ever they want… like steal my kid's toys and hit my kid and stuff. I decided not okay with me and I will yell at the other kids and then the parents get all ticked off and stuff at me for yelling at their kids. I am revering to a previous blog that you did about other parents. I mean I can't help but think about beating the other child … but don't worry… I don't.
I have a couple of comments to add to the many that have already been left!! Yay for that!
So, first off, I love Jess' suggestion for a vlog about what makes women click with other women. It's a great topic. And I have to say, the older I get the more I realize that a really good friendship requires work, much like a marriage!
And second, I was LUCKY enough to have met one of my closest friends in the final session of first prenatal class. It's a funny story, but we have led almost parallel reproductive lives, both having 2 boys about 2 1/2 years apart! It was MY luck of the draw that day!!
Great post!
What we really need is a matchmaking site for moms..you know…like eHarmony, only for moms. You can type in your interests as well as parenting styles you look for in other moms, ages of kids…etc.
In a perfect world, I would move just down the block to my perfect 'mommy match' with kids all the same sex, ages, and temperments to match my kids. Throw in hubbies that get along too and VOILA …
When we moved from SoCal and lots of great friends to a lonely part of Florida, I bought the book "The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You're Not a Kid Anymore" by Marla Paul. Good read. Lots of good ideas and, as I find here, affirmation that I am not alone in finding friends.
At least we have each other!
so many great comments. and all so relatable!. love the E harmony idea, except my "mom date" would have to appear in my living room or it probably wouldn't move forward. Was very happy to be asked out by a neighbor's family tonight. My husband was taking my step son to a Laker's game, but when the family showed up ( went to their club for a holiday dinner) My husband said, "Daphne, your date is here.". Not far from the truth and I did put make up on.
hey there hun, I've really enjoyed reading your blog! Im 30 weeks pregnant myself at the moment. I can't believe just 10 weeks to go until i am a mummy. He's my first baby you see!
I've been checking out lots of blogs and forums etc to get lots of advice. I love blogs especially from the more experienced mummys! I've found the bounty website really helpful too, loads of advice and the forums and blogs on their are great - good way to make yummy mummy friends.
When is your baby due?