Comments on: Momversation: How Has Divorce Affected You? http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/ parents don't know what they are doing anyway, might as well laugh about it Mon, 21 May 2012 19:40:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Jennifer http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-6079 Jennifer Sun, 03 May 2009 05:29:14 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-6079 Hello, well I'm not a child of divorce, but I'm a pastors kid and I have seen many children of divorce, I was once a youth pastor before I got married and had kids and I dealt w/ a lot of young people who's parents were divorced. All my life I had been against divorce and thought, it is better for the children if they stay together...my thoughts have changed. It really depends on the situation. I have fights with my husband and we disagree a whole lot. We are completely opposite and have a lot of problems, but I can't picture myself divorcing him, he loves our two little boys and he loves me, I love him as well... my cousin on the other hand, married a jerk. The kind of jerk who would cheat on her, turn his family against her, allow his 5 year old daughter to "taste" his beer, and when they split he kept everything! He has 3 daughters and they are living in an apartment and my poor cousin is sleeping on the floor because he wouldn't even let her take any furniture. She just wanted it over and done with so she let it all be, she didn't want the hassle of fighting in court over every little stupid detail, she didn't want her kids to go throught that. Now, I was happy when he was out of the picture b/c it was better for all of them. I agree with you so much when you say that there is a reason for everything. Hello, well I’m not a child of divorce, but I’m a pastors kid and I have seen many children of divorce, I was once a youth pastor before I got married and had kids and I dealt w/ a lot of young people who’s parents were divorced. All my life I had been against divorce and thought, it is better for the children if they stay together…my thoughts have changed. It really depends on the situation. I have fights with my husband and we disagree a whole lot. We are completely opposite and have a lot of problems, but I can’t picture myself divorcing him, he loves our two little boys and he loves me, I love him as well… my cousin on the other hand, married a jerk. The kind of jerk who would cheat on her, turn his family against her, allow his 5 year old daughter to “taste” his beer, and when they split he kept everything! He has 3 daughters and they are living in an apartment and my poor cousin is sleeping on the floor because he wouldn’t even let her take any furniture. She just wanted it over and done with so she let it all be, she didn’t want the hassle of fighting in court over every little stupid detail, she didn’t want her kids to go throught that. Now, I was happy when he was out of the picture b/c it was better for all of them. I agree with you so much when you say that there is a reason for everything.

]]> By: Lisa http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5918 Lisa Tue, 28 Apr 2009 17:37:20 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5918 Loved this one too -- very heartfelt and moving closing. Daphne, on a side note, FAB filming location. Delicious light, and I wanted to come sit next to you, and ponder where that gate led... Loved this one too — very heartfelt and moving closing. Daphne, on a side note, FAB filming location. Delicious light, and I wanted to come sit next to you, and ponder where that gate led…

]]> By: Kara http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5899 Kara Tue, 28 Apr 2009 03:03:17 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5899 Loved this one. Casual, honest, poignant. Loved this one. Casual, honest, poignant.

]]> By: Alexandra http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5894 Alexandra Tue, 28 Apr 2009 00:48:31 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5894 Haha!! Daphne states my #1 reason to stay married: The dad may date a stripper. After that comes Fear #2: letting the kids watch Hellboy till midnight on a schoolnight. Add on Fear #3: letting ANYONE babysit, even the New guy who moves in across the street, who lives alone in a residential neighborhood. Fear #4 rounds things out: he wouldn't make them brush their teeth, so they'd be smiling silver in all class pictures. Of course, the kids wouldn't even recognize a carrot or an apple after a few weekends with dad. And, he'd let them eat sugar all day and join a gang, too. Oh, yeah, I remind myself of these reasons on a daily basis... Haha!! Daphne states my #1 reason to stay married: The dad may date a stripper. After that comes Fear #2: letting the kids watch Hellboy till midnight on a schoolnight. Add on Fear #3: letting ANYONE babysit, even the New guy who moves in across the street, who lives alone in a residential neighborhood. Fear #4 rounds things out: he wouldn’t make them brush their teeth, so they’d be smiling silver in all class pictures. Of course, the kids wouldn’t even recognize a carrot or an apple after a few weekends with dad. And, he’d let them eat sugar all day and join a gang, too. Oh, yeah, I remind myself of these reasons on a daily basis…

]]> By: katie lenihan http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5890 katie lenihan Mon, 27 Apr 2009 23:33:08 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5890 I am a new mother and also a family law attorney. I see children used as pawns often and I have also seen parents that become better parents as a result of divorce. I always encourage my clients to work in the best interests of their kids no matter how nasty the divorce is. I am a new mother and also a family law attorney. I see children used as pawns often and I have also seen parents that become better parents as a result of divorce. I always encourage my clients to work in the best interests of their kids no matter how nasty the divorce is.

]]> By: Joyce http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5889 Joyce Mon, 27 Apr 2009 22:27:26 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5889 It wasn't my parents divorce that afftected my view of divorce; it was their marriage that affected my view of marriage. It wasn’t my parents divorce that afftected my view of divorce; it was their marriage that affected my view of marriage.

]]> By: heather http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5883 heather Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:25:47 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5883 I am a daughter of divorced parents. It makes me sad to think my parents were unhappy together so I have to say I am glad they divorced. It was not the best divorce so I think if parents are going to divorce they really need to show their kids they can co-parent amicably. Kids just want their parents to be truly happy. Really, that is what we really need to teach our kids...to find happiness and to be happy. I am a daughter of divorced parents. It makes me sad to think my parents were unhappy together so I have to say I am glad they divorced. It was not the best divorce so I think if parents are going to divorce they really need to show their kids they can co-parent amicably.

Kids just want their parents to be truly happy. Really, that is what we really need to teach our kids…to find happiness and to be happy.

]]> By: Krystal http://coolmom.com/2009/04/27/momversation-how-has-divorce-affected-you/#comment-5874 Krystal Mon, 27 Apr 2009 17:33:05 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2827#comment-5874 As a child of divorce, my parents used my brother and I as ponds in the sick evil games they played with each other. I NEVER wanted to have children because of that. Then When my husband (at the time we weren't married) found out we were pregnant, I was terrified. I sat him down, told him that if things didn't workout between us that we would be friendly and play fair. Our children emotions come first. Weather we are together or not... As a child of divorce, my parents used my brother and I as ponds in the sick evil games they played with each other. I NEVER wanted to have children because of that.
Then When my husband (at the time we weren’t married) found out we were pregnant, I was terrified. I sat him down, told him that if things didn’t workout between us that we would be friendly and play fair.
Our children emotions come first. Weather we are together or not…

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