Comments on: I Am a Madoff Victim http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/ Sun, 14 Mar 2010 05:37:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Terri http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-9813 Terri Sat, 08 Aug 2009 13:08:02 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-9813 I sympathize, sometimes the scam ponzi operators dont get on TV especially the small time crooks like: Regenesis2x2 (lost$600 on this one) Global resorts Network (lost$2100 on this one) Trivita (lost $2500 on this one) So people beware of scams and schemes and if it sounds to good and all that... I sympathize, sometimes the scam ponzi operators dont get on TV especially the small time crooks like:
Regenesis2×2 (lost$600 on this one)
Global resorts Network (lost$2100 on this one)
Trivita (lost $2500 on this one)

So people beware of scams and schemes and if it sounds to good and all that…

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-8334 Daphne Mon, 29 Jun 2009 22:57:13 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-8334 btw a tv crew is here shooting me writing this. regarding Madoff's sentence. btw a tv crew is here shooting me writing this. regarding Madoff's sentence.

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7540 Daphne Mon, 08 Jun 2009 04:46:04 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7540 oh, you all have me in tears again! in a sweet way. Jen, I am sorry about your layoff. It's like a kick in the gut. I never, ever thought I would be one of those people who has to sell their house. Well, I've walked through that fire and survived. (Now, I just would rather another shoe NOT drop.) And yes, being a SAHM ( took me about a year to figure out what that meant) can a change. But, a friend of mine ( who reads this blog) Stayed at home for over 4 years and just got a good job in this economy! We have to remember that just as our "good" times were temporary, so are the "bad" times. LISA, bless your heart, insouciant is one of my favorite words! oh, you all have me in tears again! in a sweet way.
Jen, I am sorry about your layoff. It's like a kick in the gut. I never, ever thought I would be one of those people who has to sell their house. Well, I've walked through that fire and survived. (Now, I just would rather another shoe NOT drop.)
And yes, being a SAHM ( took me about a year to figure out what that meant) can a change. But, a friend of mine ( who reads this blog) Stayed at home for over 4 years and just got a good job in this economy! We have to remember that just as our "good" times were temporary, so are the "bad" times.
LISA, bless your heart, insouciant is one of my favorite words!

]]> By: Craig http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7535 Craig Mon, 08 Jun 2009 00:11:59 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7535 Wow, Daphne. I was just catching up on my podcasts when I saw this one. Of course, I feel for you as all your friends and fans do. But, I wanted to thank you for sharing this. It was obviously hard to do. Seeing you handle such adversity with so much strength and grace is inspiring. Oh. And, I wouldn't worry about your kids. I'm sure they'll be fine and they'll find plenty of other ridiculous reasons to resent you. ;) Sorry, my cranky 16YO daughter makes me cynical. Thanks for being awesome and sharing, even when it's hard. Wow, Daphne. I was just catching up on my podcasts when I saw this one. Of course, I feel for you as all your friends and fans do. But, I wanted to thank you for sharing this. It was obviously hard to do. Seeing you handle such adversity with so much strength and grace is inspiring.

Oh. And, I wouldn't worry about your kids. I'm sure they'll be fine and they'll find plenty of other ridiculous reasons to resent you. ;) Sorry, my cranky 16YO daughter makes me cynical.

Thanks for being awesome and sharing, even when it's hard.

]]> By: Jen Chase http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7496 Jen Chase Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:23:40 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7496 Hey Daphne, I lost my job on Wednesday unexpectedly as part of a layoff and I was beside myself. Worried about the mortgage payment, worried about taking my son out of daycare because he loves it and I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a SAHM (even temporarily), worried about having to move/leave the house, etc. The list goes on. However, I remembered your post and how I approached your situation and realized I have to take my own advice. I referred back to the video and read all of the comments and I know it sounds cheesy but I feel better. I have to walk the walk....if family and health are important - hey we still have that! So what if we don't have our house - we'll get another one. Anyway - just wanted to let you know that your candid post helped me to embrace my situation, even more than I expect when I originally replied. Hey Daphne,

I lost my job on Wednesday unexpectedly as part of a layoff and I was beside myself. Worried about the mortgage payment, worried about taking my son out of daycare because he loves it and I'm not sure I'm cut out to be a SAHM (even temporarily), worried about having to move/leave the house, etc. The list goes on.

However, I remembered your post and how I approached your situation and realized I have to take my own advice. I referred back to the video and read all of the comments and I know it sounds cheesy but I feel better. I have to walk the walk….if family and health are important - hey we still have that! So what if we don't have our house - we'll get another one.

Anyway - just wanted to let you know that your candid post helped me to embrace my situation, even more than I expect when I originally replied.

]]> By: Niceness is the new career trend | Modite http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7392 Niceness is the new career trend | Modite Tue, 02 Jun 2009 04:22:24 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7392 [...] when you’ve hit bottom – and we all have now, whether rich and poor – a great opportunity exists to find commonality [...] [...] when you’ve hit bottom – and we all have now, whether rich and poor – a great opportunity exists to find commonality [...]

]]> By: amy http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7223 amy Thu, 28 May 2009 23:22:58 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7223 I am so sorry to read/watch this and had no idea... You will get through this, you have a beautiful loving family and THAT is what matters. You are a strong woman Daphne and will be just fine, I just know it. I am so sorry to read/watch this and had no idea…

You will get through this, you have a beautiful loving family and THAT is what matters. You are a strong woman Daphne and will be just fine, I just know it.

]]> By: Lauren http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7198 Lauren Thu, 28 May 2009 12:45:32 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7198 I think from the outside looking in, sometimes its easy to say things like "As long as you have your health". And though its true, that doesn't make it easy. I watched my step-father lose a business he built up for over 20 years to a business partner who staged a hostile takeover weeks after the death of my step-grandfather. He was biding his time until the distribution of the company was such that he had enough power to steal the company. I was fresh out of college, but I distinctly remember how dark those times were for my family. I'm so sorry this happened to you Daphne, I admire your strength and courage to do everything you can to bounce back. Keep your focus on your family and you will get through it - even stronger than before. I think from the outside looking in, sometimes its easy to say things like "As long as you have your health". And though its true, that doesn't make it easy. I watched my step-father lose a business he built up for over 20 years to a business partner who staged a hostile takeover weeks after the death of my step-grandfather. He was biding his time until the distribution of the company was such that he had enough power to steal the company. I was fresh out of college, but I distinctly remember how dark those times were for my family. I'm so sorry this happened to you Daphne, I admire your strength and courage to do everything you can to bounce back. Keep your focus on your family and you will get through it - even stronger than before.

]]> By: LISA http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7157 LISA Wed, 27 May 2009 16:52:13 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7157 Daphne - I haven't been on your site for about a month because I was preparing for childbirth, and now parenting a 2 week old and 3.3 yr old. Such a blessing, and so challenging!! I have spent all morning on your site, catching up on everything i've missed. . . and this vlog broke my heart. I think seeing you so emotionally affected was incredibly moving to the many of us who have gotton succor from you over time, and come to rely on your insouciant brand of humor. I can totally relate to the topic - I am a lawyer, and after 4 years with my firm, was told (while pregnant) that I should probably look for a new gig when I come back from maternity because partnership wasn't in the cards. I earn 3x what my husband earns, and am in a total state of denial at the moment about what's going to happen to us if I can't find another comperable gig. I'd even settle for a 50% pay cut if I could find meaningful employment again...it's terrifying, and I imagine the same "out of control" feeling many experience who are dependent on their partner for their primary income. When hard times hit, you just never know how you will weather the storm. You just have to try to make smart decisions (like sounds like you and Mark did about downsizing) and have some kind of "faith" (in yourselves, in the resilience of the economy, in karma...whatever) that the tides will turn. Hang in there Daphne, and please know that many of us feel your pain sistah!! xo Daphne - I haven't been on your site for about a month because I was preparing for childbirth, and now parenting a 2 week old and 3.3 yr old. Such a blessing, and so challenging!! I have spent all morning on your site, catching up on everything i've missed. . . and this vlog broke my heart. I think seeing you so emotionally affected was incredibly moving to the many of us who have gotton succor from you over time, and come to rely on your insouciant brand of humor.

I can totally relate to the topic - I am a lawyer, and after 4 years with my firm, was told (while pregnant) that I should probably look for a new gig when I come back from maternity because partnership wasn't in the cards. I earn 3x what my husband earns, and am in a total state of denial at the moment about what's going to happen to us if I can't find another comperable gig. I'd even settle for a 50% pay cut if I could find meaningful employment again…it's terrifying, and I imagine the same "out of control" feeling many experience who are dependent on their partner for their primary income. When hard times hit, you just never know how you will weather the storm. You just have to try to make smart decisions (like sounds like you and Mark did about downsizing) and have some kind of "faith" (in yourselves, in the resilience of the economy, in karma…whatever) that the tides will turn.

Hang in there Daphne, and please know that many of us feel your pain sistah!!

xo

]]> By: Tina Saib http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-7110 Tina Saib Tue, 26 May 2009 16:28:14 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-7110 Hi Daphne, I am watching your vlog in tears. I am sorry for what you and your family are going through. We have all become victims during this economic crisis. I own my own small business, 5+ years, and barely have my head above water. Thank you for your honesty. Wish you luck! Tina Hi Daphne,
I am watching your vlog in tears. I am sorry for what you and your family are going through. We have all become victims during this economic crisis. I own my own small business, 5+ years, and barely have my head above water.

Thank you for your honesty. Wish you luck!

Tina

]]> By: Amy http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6970 Amy Sat, 23 May 2009 03:50:02 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6970 Hi Daphne, I just wanted you to know that I feel your pain too. Please know that life is not what we plan. It is what happens. You are so very blessed to have your children and I love you! Hi Daphne, I just wanted you to know that I feel your pain too. Please know that life is not what we plan. It is what happens.
You are so very blessed to have your children and I love you!

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6965 Daphne Sat, 23 May 2009 02:47:01 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6965 it's great to everyones's stories! It reminds me of one of my favorite myths of life. That we think everyone else is on the town, or having friends over and we are the only slob on a couch. but, truth it most of us are watching Tv alone. So for various reason a lot of people feel like they just got kicked in the gut do to the downturn. Are the goats going to fit in the studio apartment? it's great to everyones's stories! It reminds me of one of my favorite myths of life. That we think everyone else is on the town, or having friends over and we are the only slob on a couch. but, truth it most of us are watching Tv alone. So for various reason a lot of people feel like they just got kicked in the gut do to the downturn.
Are the goats going to fit in the studio apartment?

]]> By: Heather http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6944 Heather Fri, 22 May 2009 16:57:54 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6944 I feel for you and am in a similar boat. At no point did I ever think my assets would be illiquid (we have taken mortages out to buy rental properties) but we're in the position of moving from our home and community to an unfinished house we own 2.5 hrs north of us so we can get rental income to pay the mortgage. Our family of 4 will move into a 400 sq foot studio apartment and will "pick off" finishing the rest of the 2,700 sq ft house with cash-out-of-pocket (and we don't make that much). My 7 and 9 year old daughters are looking forward to the adventure as we promised them their own room and a goat. They got the goats early and now can play with Jellybean, Willow, Snickers and Teaspoon instead of the friends they've known since they were born. Silver lining, adventures, all that. Since happiness is a state of mind we're going to be stoked we have a home of our own and have time to rebound. Many blessings to you for the joy you spread with your vlog. I feel for you and am in a similar boat. At no point did I ever think my assets would be illiquid (we have taken mortages out to buy rental properties) but we're in the position of moving from our home and community to an unfinished house we own 2.5 hrs north of us so we can get rental income to pay the mortgage. Our family of 4 will move into a 400 sq foot studio apartment and will "pick off" finishing the rest of the 2,700 sq ft house with cash-out-of-pocket (and we don't make that much).

My 7 and 9 year old daughters are looking forward to the adventure as we promised them their own room and a goat. They got the goats early and now can play with Jellybean, Willow, Snickers and Teaspoon instead of the friends they've known since they were born.

Silver lining, adventures, all that. Since happiness is a state of mind we're going to be stoked we have a home of our own and have time to rebound.

Many blessings to you for the joy you spread with your vlog.

]]> By: Soya http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6940 Soya Fri, 22 May 2009 14:56:34 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6940 The day my parents married their house burned down. they lost everything [they did not have all that much to begin with]. So they just had a tea-party for close friends. They started from scratch and they have a comfortable retirement plan today. They had to make a lot of compromises but things change with time. Things get better , then worse, then better and its all a cycle. So hang in there, its not like you will never live in your dream house ...it is just that it is going to take longer ..same goes for the retirement plan. You will be financially strong some day - the difference is that it will not be as soon as you expect. In India - recession is bad but it has yet to reach the extent that it has in the US. However - there are still loads of people without jobs right now, qualified, experienced with loans and dreams. Gone in a second. It has affected us personally too. I keep repeating to myself that things will get better. Life is a series of ups and down and things cannot be bad forever. I have a loving family and that is what matters more than anything else. The day my parents married their house burned down. they lost everything [they did not have all that much to begin with]. So they just had a tea-party for close friends. They started from scratch and they have a comfortable retirement plan today. They had to make a lot of compromises but things change with time. Things get better , then worse, then better and its all a cycle. So hang in there, its not like you will never live in your dream house …it is just that it is going to take longer ..same goes for the retirement plan. You will be financially strong some day - the difference is that it will not be as soon as you expect.

In India - recession is bad but it has yet to reach the extent that it has in the US. However - there are still loads of people without jobs right now, qualified, experienced with loans and dreams. Gone in a second. It has affected us personally too. I keep repeating to myself that things will get better. Life is a series of ups and down and things cannot be bad forever. I have a loving family and that is what matters more than anything else.

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6838 Daphne Wed, 20 May 2009 06:48:55 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6838 It's not as warm as Italy, but I do like Amsterdam as well...but I'll stay out of the hash bars till my kids are grown. :) Thanks for the tale! It's not as warm as Italy, but I do like Amsterdam as well…but I'll stay out of the hash bars till my kids are grown. :)
Thanks for the tale!

]]> By: Missey http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6834 Missey Wed, 20 May 2009 04:05:37 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6834 I have a story for you... There once was a woman who wanted to go to Italy, she hoped and dreamed about it, she studied Italian, and scrimped and saved for years. Finally, she had saved enough and she bought a ticket to Rome, Italy. Her dreams had come true. When the plane landed, the flight attendant said, "Welcome to Amsterdam!" Amsterdam?! She was gong to Italy- she walked off of the plane in a disappointed daze and fog, she stumbled around for days. Amsterdam? But, Italy was my dream. And then she looked around. Amsterdam was beautiful! Sure, she didn't speak the language, or know anything about the culture, but she was capable. She could learn. She discovered, that although she wanted to go to Italy, Amsterdam, with all of its differences, was wonderful too. I'm so sorry for your difficulties, I hope this didn't seem trite, because nothing sucks worse that having the rug ripped out from under you. Good luck, you're a good person, and you have the power to make good things come your way. Amsterdam may not be so bad after all. My thoughts are with you and your family. Missey I have a story for you…

There once was a woman who wanted to go to Italy, she hoped and dreamed about it, she studied Italian, and scrimped and saved for years. Finally, she had saved enough and she bought a ticket to Rome, Italy. Her dreams had come true.

When the plane landed, the flight attendant said, "Welcome to Amsterdam!" Amsterdam?! She was gong to Italy- she walked off of the plane in a disappointed daze and fog, she stumbled around for days. Amsterdam? But, Italy was my dream.

And then she looked around. Amsterdam was beautiful! Sure, she didn't speak the language, or know anything about the culture, but she was capable. She could learn. She discovered, that although she wanted to go to Italy, Amsterdam, with all of its differences, was wonderful too.

I'm so sorry for your difficulties, I hope this didn't seem trite, because nothing sucks worse that having the rug ripped out from under you. Good luck, you're a good person, and you have the power to make good things come your way. Amsterdam may not be so bad after all.

My thoughts are with you and your family. Missey

]]> By: Kristin http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6827 Kristin Wed, 20 May 2009 01:12:10 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6827 Thank you for sharing... I cannot imagine what you are going through... it must be so frustrating to work so hard, do the right things, and have someone just take it all away like that. I am sorry you have to leave your home, but know you can make your new home a special place where you and your beautiful family will make many happy memories together! Kristin Thank you for sharing… I cannot imagine what you are going through… it must be so frustrating to work so hard, do the right things, and have someone just take it all away like that. I am sorry you have to leave your home, but know you can make your new home a special place where you and your beautiful family will make many happy memories together!

Kristin

]]> By: Barb @ getupandplay http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6820 Barb @ getupandplay Tue, 19 May 2009 21:15:16 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6820 I think you are brave and full of grace. I think you are brave and full of grace.

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6814 Daphne Tue, 19 May 2009 19:24:19 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6814 such guts you all have. Thank you for sending my family your best and I send it right back! Stanz reading what you wrote that Viv will speak well of me years from now on how I coped made me tear up. Bless you. When we first got the bad news I pictured Rex years from now in his 20's on a date with a girl saying "yeah, well, my dad did have some money, but they lost it all right before I was born." And he would have this stigma of parents who blew it for him. I do see the future could be rosier than that and I do think we did the best with what we knew. Obviously, I dearly wish we had made other choices. But, when I dropped my wallet in the street a year ago did someone steal it? No, a lady went through it and found my business card, she called me and handed it all back to me. Humans are careless and our humanity dictates we don't take advantage of them. Latina mama, honestly I understand... at the time I wanted to tell you, "but I really need this wine right now". :) such guts you all have. Thank you for sending my family your best and I send it right back!
Stanz reading what you wrote that Viv will speak well of me years from now on how I coped made me tear up. Bless you. When we first got the bad news I pictured Rex years from now in his 20's on a date with a girl saying "yeah, well, my dad did have some money, but they lost it all right before I was born." And he would have this stigma of parents who blew it for him.
I do see the future could be rosier than that and I do think we did the best with what we knew. Obviously, I dearly wish we had made other choices. But, when I dropped my wallet in the street a year ago did someone steal it? No, a lady went through it and found my business card, she called me and handed it all back to me. Humans are careless and our humanity dictates we don't take advantage of them.
Latina mama, honestly I understand… at the time I wanted to tell you, "but I really need this wine right now". :)

]]> By: Nicole Carter http://coolmom.com/2009/05/18/i-am-a-madoff-victim/#comment-6806 Nicole Carter Tue, 19 May 2009 16:34:34 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=2924#comment-6806 Daphne, You have been a source of joy for me in these past few troubled months. Going through these traumatic drastic changes in life hurt. They hurt a lot. What I can say from my own place of pain is you have to make that decision to carry on. Your family needs you to. It is amazing what you can do when you refocus for you and your family's survival. Its a nice way to bust your troubles in the a&$! Daphne,

You have been a source of joy for me in these past few troubled months. Going through these traumatic drastic changes in life hurt. They hurt a lot. What I can say from my own place of pain is you have to make that decision to carry on. Your family needs you to. It is amazing what you can do when you refocus for you and your family's survival.

Its a nice way to bust your troubles in the a&$!

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