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By: kristy - wheres my damn answer

kristy - wheres my damn answer — Tue, 26 May 2009 18:22:42 +0000

I have been so behind with catching up and this morning I finally got to your blog in my google reader and read all the posts from the last couple weeks.

I am not a HUGE commenter here, but I wanted to take a minute to say that I respect you and the fact that you are being real with all that you are tackling here.

I believe that as women, we do what we have to do to take care of our families and I admire the fact that you are not only doing that (as if that wasn’t enough) but you are sharing the struggles with your readers which will no doubt inspire and remind them what life is really all about.

As someone who has risen from the ashes when I lost everything except my son … I am glad to be a reader. There is a teeny part of me who wishes that I lived next door so that we could sit and chit chat about the exciting things that I KNOW are around the corner for you.

Kristy

By: Daphne

Daphne — Thu, 21 May 2009 20:48:03 +0000

love the hide and seek idea. I’m sure I am the bigger baby!!

By: KM

KM — Thu, 21 May 2009 17:50:24 +0000

Kids are way more resilient than we give them credit for. Viv is still so little, she’ll move on pretty quickly. Adults are much more stuck on that type of thing. As a military spouse, moving houses (cities, states, countries…) just comes with the lifestyle. My little boy continually amazes me with his adaptability. He is better at it than I am!! Good luck with the move!

By: Sadie

Sadie — Thu, 21 May 2009 13:22:11 +0000

Maybe you or the handsome hubby (:P) could play hide-and-seek with Viv in the new house? It would help her see that the new house is fun too, as well as help her get used to the new layout etc.
I used to move house every 2 years because my dad was in the army, and me and my little sis used to play hide-and-seek… Ah it was fun

By: Daphne

Daphne — Thu, 21 May 2009 01:48:39 +0000

Gina, agree a hundred percent. The list is LONG of people who have it worse off. For sure.
Thanks for my video to do list Alexandra, you sound like you are great with your kids.

I think in the first weeks of the news I was in a fog and when a friend said, “kids don’t care about a big house, they care that their parents love them.’ I almost had to write it down, like, uh, okay, love, yeah, I can do that.

By: gina

gina — Thu, 21 May 2009 00:20:44 +0000

On the bus today, I encountered a gentleman I will never forget……3/4 of his body burned beyond recognition, left arm badly injured….bus driver asks how hes doing. He takes a breath, looks the driver in the face and says “I am blessed!” without a hint of irony or sarcasm. Any one of us who thinks we have problems should take them to this guy and have them put into perspective.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 20 May 2009 18:29:07 +0000

P.S.
And by no means am I implying that you are poor. LOL Just saying kids are resilient and as long as they have you 2, they’re golden.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 20 May 2009 18:27:19 +0000

I will just say this…my parents owned a car dealership when I was younger and sold it just before I graduated from college and now they are doing other things. It allowed us to have a lot of nice things growing up. Once, a few years ago when we were talking about that, my Mom said something to me about not having a pot to piss in when I was little (pre-dealership). I questioned her and she laughed and said that we didn’t do anything and going out to dinner was a big treat and how she wore crappy clothes so I could wear cute ones. I stopped to think and said “Hell, it didn’t matter one bit!” I had NO clue that we were ‘poor’ and that I didn’t have anything fancy. I had 2 loving parents who were both involved in my life and I never missed a thing.

I am sure you are doing the right thing by your family and your kids will love you even more for it.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 20 May 2009 15:58:16 +0000

When we moved, albiet under different circumstances, we just kind of weened our kiddo into the new house. We went over often, and made her room very special and got very excited when we talked about the “new house.” I think you are definatly on the right track here. Keep it up.

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Wed, 20 May 2009 14:32:27 +0000

P.P.S. One more thing, then I’ll quit lurking: who says you’ve let your kids down? Who says you’re not giving them the life you dreamed of for them? Having things does not equal happiness or feeling loved. There is a great DVD put out by the son of S.C. Johnson Wax called “Young and Rich”, and it’s a documentary about the young and really rich: Vanderbilt, Halston, Trump, Johnson and Johnson, etc. The Uberrich. Anyway,despite owing Grand Central Station and the like, they are an unhappy, medicated bunch. See it for yourself. Have a wonderful day.

Write your blessings in stone, and your sorrows in sand.
See ya, honey, this is a temporary mindset you’re in. This, too, shall pass. Now, go for a walk with that yummy baby of yours.

By: kathleen

kathleen — Wed, 20 May 2009 14:30:07 +0000

Thanks for your honesty and for your positive attitude, your kids have a great example, as do we out here in fan land. Having moved about every 3 years when I was a kid (no I’m not an Army kid) I know it’s hard.
It’s incredible how ones kids help you keep it together.

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Wed, 20 May 2009 14:27:24 +0000

P,S, Maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to rent Gone With The Wind tonight and watch it..maybe not just once but a few times…

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Wed, 20 May 2009 12:10:59 +0000

Attitudes are contagious. I have not complained once about our plight, but have spoken about how fun it will be to live with gramma and gramp and how California has the best waterparks, and no more winters. This works with the little ones.

With our oldest, the 14 yr old, I talk about how much of a man and leader this will make him, and how he will heads above the crowd with maturity b/c of all he’s leading his brothers through, as the oldest.

Kids follow your cue. I smile, and tell how lucky we ae to have a place to go to. Sadly, sadly, some families have no where to go,no new house to buy.

You are so fortunate that your house sold in California right now, and that you were able to find something so quickly that you could afford. You got some good karma goin’ on , Daphne.

This is all good stuff. No foreclosure, not having to move in with in laws, both still employed…I see no problems, but definite opportunities to re-assess life and teach coping skills to children.

Because life is life…

Good luck, you are leading the bunch of us loyal readers out here, watching you handle this with grace, leadership, and optimism. My hero,