Comments on: The Stages 1) Sadness 2) Barf 3) a Mix Tape http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/ parents don't know what they are doing anyway, might as well laugh about it Mon, 21 May 2012 19:40:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6961 Daphne Fri, 22 May 2009 23:12:50 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6961 Thanks gals! Natalie, I admire bands these days! So hard to get noticed with all the record stores closed down. Don't know how I found them... Thanks gals!
Natalie, I admire bands these days! So hard to get noticed with all the record stores closed down. Don’t know how I found them…

]]> By: Jenn Bo http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6947 Jenn Bo Fri, 22 May 2009 17:41:17 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6947 Thank you for sharing your experience. I admire how you are just moving forward and recognizing the emotions to deal with them as best you can. Thank you for sharing your experience. I admire how you are just moving forward and recognizing the emotions to deal with them as best you can.

]]> By: Natalie http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6917 Natalie Fri, 22 May 2009 01:28:22 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6917 The drummer for Back Porch Mary is my friend, Ryan! I was so happy to see on your blog that you are listening to them! I do a few things in the music industry, so it is always great to see when your friends are recognized for their great music!! P.S. Fiona Apple is a really great one to listen to when you are super pissed off (or sad). The drummer for Back Porch Mary is my friend, Ryan! I was so happy to see on your blog that you are listening to them! I do a few things in the music industry, so it is always great to see when your friends are recognized for their great music!!

P.S. Fiona Apple is a really great one to listen to when you are super pissed off (or sad).

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6908 Daphne Thu, 21 May 2009 20:54:31 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6908 passing of sense of security, well put Kelly. thank you. Alexandra, you give me too much credit, but thank you. I did have shame at first like we had done something wrong. That was part of the reason I didn't want to speak about it. The folks who we did talk to were so supportive and outraged for us that it helped. I also felt for awhile I didn't want to "burden" my readers. I've always felt the one thing I can do for humanity is give people a chuckle every once in a while. Now, you got caught on so many levels. That is so unfortunate. Glad you keep your humor. Have you already sold the books you love? Would you allow me to "buy" a couple from you? Then I'll send them back to you when you get your own house again. I found resale is so lousy, sometimes it's not worth selling stuff. passing of sense of security, well put Kelly. thank you.
Alexandra, you give me too much credit, but thank you. I did have shame at first like we had done something wrong. That was part of the reason I didn’t want to speak about it. The folks who we did talk to were so supportive and outraged for us that it helped. I also felt for awhile I didn’t want to “burden” my readers. I’ve always felt the one thing I can do for humanity is give people a chuckle every once in a while.

Now, you got caught on so many levels. That is so unfortunate. Glad you keep your humor. Have you already sold the books you love? Would you allow me to “buy” a couple from you? Then I’ll send them back to you when you get your own house again. I found resale is so lousy, sometimes it’s not worth selling stuff.

]]> By: kelly http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6904 kelly Thu, 21 May 2009 19:40:10 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6904 I am sorry for your loss - and you have every right to grieve the passing of your sense of security. I do appreciate your openness- this puts a very human face on Madoffs victims. I am sorry for your loss – and you have every right to grieve the passing of your sense of security. I do appreciate your openness- this puts a very human face on Madoffs victims.

]]> By: Alexandra http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6899 Alexandra Thu, 21 May 2009 17:38:56 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6899 My mouth is agape at the thought of how you managed to keep this all inside. How did you do that, since Christmas???? See, you don't even KNOW HOW AMAZING YOU ARE. I can only guess at how good it must feel to finally be able to talk. It is awful keeping a secret. My husband didn't want to tell anyone that we have to sell and move with his parents, but I was starting to sink into a deep depression from having to fake it and lie. I just said, "you know what, I'm talking." And it feels so good to not be quiet...why should we be, we didn't do anything wrong. We lost a ton in stocks, our house plummeted in value, my husband's dept at work was eliminated, and my position at school was taken up by another woman. (she works a double caseload now.) Such is life. But I'm healthy (physically, anyway..haha), my husban'ds healthy, my kids are doing great. It's just a house, and we're down to one car, and going to live with my in laws. All my beautiful books are going to Half Price Books. It all makes for a new path in life. I'm still amazed at how you plodded along, not skipping a beat: following your blog, I never would've guessed. Enjoy coming out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you and bless you for your honesty. You can tell at how I can't shuttup right now that it feels GOOD to know someone understands living with panic puntuated with moments of sheer terror. love you, honey. And Mark couldn't have married a finer woman. My mouth is agape at the thought of how you managed to keep this all inside. How did you do that, since Christmas???? See, you don’t even KNOW HOW AMAZING YOU ARE. I can only guess at how good it must feel to finally be able to talk. It is awful keeping a secret. My husband didn’t want to tell anyone that we have to sell and move with his parents, but I was starting to sink into a deep depression from having to fake it and lie. I just said, “you know what, I’m talking.” And it feels so good to not be quiet…why should we be, we didn’t do anything wrong.

We lost a ton in stocks, our house plummeted in value, my husband’s dept at work was eliminated, and my position at school was taken up by another woman. (she works a double caseload now.)

Such is life. But I’m healthy (physically, anyway..haha), my husban’ds healthy, my kids are doing great. It’s just a house, and we’re down to one car, and going to live with my in laws. All my beautiful books are going to Half Price Books.

It all makes for a new path in life.

I’m still amazed at how you plodded along, not skipping a beat: following your blog, I never would’ve guessed. Enjoy coming out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you and bless you for your honesty. You can tell at how I can’t shuttup right now that it feels GOOD to know someone understands living with panic puntuated with moments of sheer terror. love you, honey. And Mark couldn’t have married a finer woman.

]]> By: Rebecca http://coolmom.com/2009/05/21/the-stages-of-grief/#comment-6896 Rebecca Thu, 21 May 2009 15:30:53 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=3006#comment-6896 I love the idea of the mix tape! And I continue to appreciate you sharing your story. I agree that talking about it helps you and those around you. I love the idea of the mix tape! And I continue to appreciate you sharing your story. I agree that talking about it helps you and those around you.

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