I know I’m kinda late (well, I guess VERY late) in posting a comment but I still wanted to say something.

I wouldn’t stay in a marriage in my spouse cheats on me. I’m with Dana (mamalogues.com) on this one.

Right now, I have a friend who is going through a somewhat bitter divorce over this. Her husband pretty much cheated on her from the very beginning of their marriage. In the beginning she didn’t know, then when she found out she almost lost her now one year old baby boy. She did counseling, tried to stay together, and did the denial thing for a long time. She now admits to wishing she would’ve done something about it when she first found out (before she got preggo and all).
Denial to me is just a poor defense mechanism; I mean you’ll HAVE to deal with the issue sooner or later right? Why wait when you can take action right there and then in whatever form, either leaving, kicking him/her out, going to marriage counseling, etc?

The “don’t ask, don’t tell” gets us into a lot of trouble…now I’m not saying I’ve never being in denial about something; I have, many times. But, I’ve learned that at the end, whatever situation tried to swept under the rug was still there..if you sweep dust under your carpet it doesn’t mean is not there anymore..is just under the carpet.

So, my 2 cents!