The last in my recent series with my mom Morency. The vid speaks for itself so allow me to relate an anecdote that illustrates what a practical, Minnesotan my mom is. Now, I’m sure I will get some of the details wrong and be corrected later, but here is the gist.
Her father passed away when she was 12. Part of how her mother supported the family was to buy big houses and rent out rooms to boarders. This was the 1940s in the Twin Cities. One day my mom came home from high school, and she saw her room had been moved into the dining room. A man had shown up that day and would pay money to rent my mom’s bedroom.
I said, “Gosh, weren’t you upset?”
My mom: “Why would I be upset? My mom got $25 a month for that room. I understood.”
Now, I made up that amount, but you get it. I like when I have flashes of that myself. Practical and unsentimental. Of course, my dad is from Georgia, so I’m also half Southern Gothic. That’s the side that has to stay at home and watch every minute of Ted Kennedy’s funeral,
But back to mom guilt…
Amen Sister! I think that most mom’s have their priorities straight–kids/spouse/family first–and we tend to put ourselves waaaaaay down on the list after work and chores etc.
So when we have an opportunity to take some rare “Me” time, we should enjoy it, refresh ourselves and then go home to our families and appreciate them even more.
I remember after my divorce I had a friend of mine ask me if I was lonely when my ex-husband had my daughter for a couple of days. And although I would miss my daughter tremendously, I reveled in that alone time because it was so rare for me. And I didn’t feel guilty and still don’t.
I’m a better mom now because I’m able to recharge when needed and focus solely on my children when they need me.
@BeingSuper
Oh, I just love getting the perspective of a mom who’s made it through and lived to talk about it
Thanks Morency!
I agree consider time for you a recharge and it’ll make you a better mom more able to cope with one tough life.
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Kristin,
yes, I know a few divorce moms who kind of have it made with every other weekend off and by a baby sitter they trust..or at least don’t pay for!
The other night I grabbed Mark from his work so we could go out for an hour. Just that made me come bouncing home like Mary Poppins. I was patient, loving to my kids.
and yes, thanks Morency!
Totally unrelated to this vlog, BUT just found out my Mark Peel book arrives Sept 24!!! They had thought Oct 13, but date moved up…just in time for my birthday.
Cannot wait to start…
Wow, Alexandra that’s before it’s even out. cool. so you don’t have to send the book out I should get mark to write you something on a sticky something and I could send to you. or at least on a piece of paper. If you like.. please email me here with your snail mail.
What’s that all about?
it was some junk I just deleted.