Comments on: Momversation: Did You Take Your Husband’s Name?

By: Daphne

Daphne — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:16:49 +0000

Chris, just think when that name meant that little think that went under a jacket. Yea, i hear you.
love how sassy you guys are. Ellen ” sounds like a disease.”–ha ha.
Alexandra, re music, You are nicer than me
Credit is a very good point. God, it’s a big enough pain changing addresses, a name…oye!

By: Chris

Chris — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 23:21:49 +0000

I’m a high school teacher and my maiden name is Dickie.
It was a no-brainer.
I did what most of the women in my family did – dropped my given middle name (Ann – THE middle name of the 80′s) and now I’m Christin Dickie Hoyt, Christin D. Hoyt, anything but Miss Dickie.

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:07:50 +0000

Aw, I think the background music is appropriate and sweet. It makes everyone seem so sweet in their decision to change or not change surnames.

I know, for me, I was much too old when I got married to change my last name. I was 35, I had a home, credit established in my name, all of it. It would all disappear from everything if I changed last names.

You never know what can happen. I had read of women who had no credit history under their married name, and when they lost their husband to whatever reason, they had to literally start all over.

Not for me. So, my last name is different from my family’s, and I know that in this small town, I’ve heard people whisper, “she kept her last name” as if that’s a reflection on the amount of love I have for my husband. It’s a personal choice…nothing emotional , for me, just personal.

By: stanz

stanz — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:50:33 +0000

Married at 32, did not change it. Husband could not understand why anyone does (another reason I like him). Now married 10 years and it is not a big deal. Only hard one is kids little friends. But they will learn. Like you said I cave to make it easier to get the task done and what I need — from the doc office, the school etc.

I actually like the message it sends to my kids that I am still me but that was not my motivation. Mostly his name is hard, and it seemed like a pointless hassle.

By: ellennow

ellennow — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:00:14 +0000

This topic is near to my heart. I didn’t change my name and I wasn’t older, we met as teenagers.

After years of my in-laws addressing stuff to MRS. RICHARD Husband’s last name… My MIL has a pass as she is old school and I can respect that. I said something to my SIL and she kept doing it. My SIL is divorced with kids, but chose to change her name back to her maiden name after the divorce. So when the conversation came back up about using my real name, to drive the point home, I asked her is she wanted me to start using MRS. SIL Ex-Husband’s name… she said no that is not my name, I said I understand as MRS Richard Husband’s last name is not my name either, but it doesn’t seem to matter. And guess what this year my birthday card was actually addressed to me!

I actually did the hypen thing when we got married but it was a mouthful and sounded like a disease, so I only use it on legal documents like the title to the house and go la-natural with everything else.

By: hippittee

hippittee — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:45:56 +0000

A dysfunctional relationship with my father made my decision a lot easier — however, if we’d had a good relationship I do believe I would have kept my maiden name.

On the flip side of the same conversation — I know a woman who was married in her mid-twenties for less than six months; and twenty years later is carrying her married name — in this case, no kids, no professional ties to the married name, doesn’t have a relationship today with the guy. To me, that’s odd!

By: Daphne

Daphne — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 18:51:11 +0000

Jean, good point. I have heard that they are becoming more strict. wouldn’t know since I my foreign travel is stalled at the moment.
Sheila, what a cool husband! A name is a name. why not?

will look at lip color…

By: Jean

Jean — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:08:34 +0000

I’m with you on this one, Daphne. Same story, older when I married and already had stuff that existed in my name; bank accounts, stocks, etc. I simply couldn’t see changing my identity at 31. Still can’t at 50. My kids know my name and have no trouble with it. I’ll answer to whatever, just like you said. I even answer to my daughter’s name when called that.

The only time it’s ever an issue is when my husband books international flights and forgets to tell them my name isn’t the same. Whoops! Passport and airport people really don’t like that. Now I carry a copy of my marriage license in my passport. Much easier than changing my name on everything in my life.

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:11:32 +0000

I took my husband’s name. I guess I played it traditional although I like that we have the same last name and that I have the same last name as my daughter. My maiden name was more unique than my current name and that’s my only complaint. Love your lip color is this video BTW.

By: Sheila

Sheila — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 13:48:56 +0000

My husband took my last name and it was his idea. Its a big hit with women but men don’t understand it.