Boobie? No Thank You

Everyone has their thing that really bugs. Like people sticking their fingers in their mouth or likewise fidgeting with their fingers to get at some imagined piece of annoying flesh drives me UP the wall.

I also think a wife should go through her ENTIRE married life without ever having to witness her husband floss his teeth.

(Cut to shot of me sitting in bed reading and to the side of me is the bathroom door, open with husband flossing. “Oh, for the love of God, shut the door!”)

Here is another one of these peccadilloes of mine.

26 thoughts on “Boobie? No Thank You

  1. I couldn’t agree more with you! We need to teach our kids the appropriate terminology for our bodies. Honestly, I think it has more to do with the parents’ discomfort at using the correct lingo than anything else.

    I have a 14 month old boy, and I’m making sure that that thing between his legs is a penis, not a pee pee or a weiner or whatever. My cousin is doing the same thing with her little girl, and she knows full well that she has a vagina, not a pee pee. I love it!

  2. Completely with you on this one. My kids are older now and when they use what I call “playground language” I stop ’em dead in their tracks with the right terminology. They laugh, but I think (hope) they get the message that we use the appropriate words.

    Direct talk rules.

  3. I love how your face squinches up (squinches?) whenever you say the word “boobie.” I do the same thing.

    I’m not a parent, but it’s always bothered me when my nephew says “pee pee.” And he uses it interchangeably between his penis and urination, so he goes pee pee with his pee pee, if that makes sense. Obnoxious.

    I much prefer correct terms for just about everything as well, though boobie annoys me on some fundamental level that goes beyond it being degrading toward women. Just can’t put my finger on why.

  4. yes, I understand.
    Sarah, think you are right about parent’s discomfort. They think the correct terms are more scandalous than the real terms. I really don’t get calling nursing “yum-yum” or whatever else people call it. It’s nursing. Or it’s feeding. What’s with the cutesy words? Maybe part of the irk is feeding and caring for your baby is serious work and shouldn’t be hello kitty-azized. And our bodies shouldn’t have to take on a character know that we are mothers. I’m mean they may not be hard bodies, but let’s keep it real.

  5. When I hear “boobie” I immediately think of some cartoonish, Pamela-Anderson, plastic-looking thing. It’s just not right.

  6. Wow I am never one to disagree or cause controversy but I have to break in on the lets ban the word “boobies” from our vocabulary. I am just in the process of weaning my fifth baby and I am in the pro-boobie camp. After over 50 months of breastfeeding my five children I have come to love and appreciate my drippy, droopy boobies and have quite a sense of humor about them. How could you not? I think maybe we should lighten up. Think of all the things men use to name their body parts because they love them and have a sense of humor! I wrote a whole blog post this summer about “Boobies”. Are there no other women out there who love the word “Boobies?
    http://www.thecircushouse.com/2009/07/boobies.html

  7. I think it’s personal preference. I don’t love the word “boobie” but I do use it from time to time. I only breastfed my daughter for 4 months but I never used the word “boobie” to describe the act of breastfeeding. I just said, “Are you hungry? Ok, let’s feed you.”

    And another thing, if a kid is old enough to say, “mmmm I love boobies!” it’s time to get him/her OFF the boobie! Just sayin’….

  8. It’s such a wake up call vocabulary-wise to have a little mimic around. No matter what the word, there’s going to be something sometime that my kid says that’s going to make me realize, “There’s no one to blame for that except me!”

  9. This is why my husband finds me to be a confusing women. I don’t like the word “boobies” especially when he uses it, or any other slang he comes up with. These are my breast, if you want to touch them again use the proper word. But… I LOVE the “save the boobies” t-shirt they have out to support breast cancer. I have the t-shirt but don’t wear it since we have two daughters and I don’t want them to pick up that goofy word.

  10. I…gotta disagree with you here. When I was nursing my daughter I called it num-nums or nummies. (One of the two…I remember I changed it early on because I used to ask my dog if he wanted one of those two when it was time for his meal)

    Well, when my daughter was eight months old, in late September, early October I took her with me to Virgina where I met up with a group of other Bereaved Moms.(we had all lost children) and I roomed with my friend Melissa who had an almost two year old who was also breastfeeding. Her daughter called it “mei-mei’s.” I continued with whatever I was calling it.

    Three months later, Ripley spoke up about it and declared them to be “mei-mei’s.”

    Today she’s nine and since she was FIVE she refuses to use words for body parts or bodily functions that aren’t correct. She never “pees” she “urinates.” She doesn’t have a butt, booty or tushy…she has a bottom. She doesn’t EVER fart…she passes gas. I could go on but MAN is it annoying sometimes to be corrected when I say “boobs” (because they’re MY boobs damnit) by my daughter. “They’re BREASTS Mom…”

    So basically I have no issue with whatever a nursling, no matter how big or little, calls their mom’s breasts or as seems to often be the case not just breasts, but a combination of breasts and breastfeeding. That’s what “mei-meis” was for us, that’s what I’ve found from other friends of mine who breastfed their kids have said. And that’s likely what “Boobie” was for the toddler who was nursing.

    My opinion.

  11. I love the boobie wars!
    Hey, Frances, you hit upon an aspect of this I did find disturbing. A large child nursing. I know there are some that nurse till the kid is 5, however even a pro nurser like myself found it odd.
    Talon, I would never disagree with anyone who has lost a child. You call your ta-ta’s whatever you want. God bless.

  12. I’m not into cute code names either so we try to use accurate words with our four.
    Breast not boobie. Penis not pee pee. Vulva not… well, whatever everyone else calls it.
    Here’s the thing: no matter what the kids are calling their parts they can still surprise the hell out of you when they talk about them. For instance, my 3-year-old son said this about his twin sister the other day:
    “Josephine has a beautiful vulva.”
    Um, ok.

  13. I recently had a conversation with another mom about this same subject. She has taught her 2 yr old daughter to use “nee-nee” (uh, what?) instead of “vagina”.

    This woman couldn’t even SAY the word vagina herself. She called her own, “you know, dowwwwn therrrre” (gasp!).

    Anyway, trying to keep a straight face, I asked her how she came up with “nee-nee”, and she said she wasn’t “ready to go there” with her 2 year old daughter. I was like, “What do you mean? It’s a body part. There’s nothing sexual about a 2 year old vagina. “. She nearly choked on her latte and looked at me as if I had 3 heads.

    BUT, during this conversation, it occurred to me that her reluctance to teach her daughter to use “vagina” instead of “nee-nee” was MORE about how our culture sexualizes everything about a woman’s body. Even WOMEN do it! Yikes!!!

    It’s strikes me odd that after having gone through pregnancy AND labor, how ANY woman can’t see her body as a more than a playground. I mean seriously.

    I agree with you on this one Daphne. Though, I don’t necessarily cringe, I more like think, “Are you serious?!”.

    Eileen.

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  15. Related story, even worse: I was at a party a about a year ago at the house of a woman with a 2 and a half year old son. He spent most of the party upstairs, but at one point came down with his dad and yelled, “Mommy, TITTY!” She thought that all of the aghast expressions on the guests faces were because they thought he was too old to be breastfeeding! UGH!

  16. I’d have to say that I see nothing wrong with the word “boobie”…I’ve breastfed all four of my children (for 2 years each). I am a registered nurse and all my children also know the correct terminology for their body parts (penis, vagina, breast, etc). I think it has to do with the adults feeling uncomfortable with their bodies than anything. My 2 1/2 year old will still occassionally ask for “boobie” (as that was his “bah bah’ which I’m sure that bottle feeding mothers have no objection to THAT terminology). He still knows that they are “breasts”. How many 1 or 2 year olds can say the word breast? (or bottle for that matter)….

    I say….get over it!

  17. I think it’s a personal preference. We spend too much time worrying about what comes out of other people’s mouths instead of our own. I say don’t use the word if you don’t like it and don’t teach your children to use it. Plain and simple. Society likes labels and if you don’t like it, don’t use it.

  18. I’m generally with you – refer to my breasts as breasts with my children, especially as it relates to feeding the baby. However, I think the word “boob” is so common that I don’t find it particularly degrading and wouldn’t think it that big of a deal if my daughter started calling breasts boobs, I guess.

    Here’s my body part question for ya, Dapnhe – what do you use to refer to the part of your daughter’s body from which pee (er, urine, excuse me) : ) comes? Because I have no problem with the use of the word “vagina” instead of “pee pee”, except that pee doesn’t come from one’s vagina.
    I am asking this in all seriousness – not poking fun. For example, if your daughter complained of a pain down there, like maybe the onset of a UTI or something like that, would you refer to the urethra? Something about that just seems so odd to me, but I’m not sure why it’s any different than saying elbow or kneecap or whatever, so maybe I’m just being silly.

    Having yet to solve that riddle, I seem to fall back on referring to her “pee pee” in these situations, even though I am normally 100% supportive of the use of proper body part names.

  19. I personally don’t like words like “boobie”, “boob”, or other “cutesy” names for women’s breasts but I also don’t know if I’d agree that using those words indicates a discomfort with our bodies. Maybe it’s because when I was growing up my parents were all about using the correct anatomical words and, frankly, it always seemed–even as a young kid–that they were just trying a little too hard to seem “comfortable.” Kudos to them for trying I guess. I think the bottom line is that if you feel comfortable with your body that comes through to your children–no matter what you call those body parts (ok, within reason…).

    And BTW: I don’t think I’ve ever heard a parent call their babies’ bottom/booty/tushy/butt a “buttocks”….but maybe I’m confusing the issue.

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