Comments on: BFF http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/ parents don't know what they are doing anyway, might as well laugh about it Tue, 22 May 2012 01:28:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Lucy http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17243 Lucy Tue, 09 Feb 2010 09:01:32 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17243 Im a control freak so I can never cross the friend line. Im to afraid of what could happen when they are older. It was hard to stay focused on your humor during this one due to those cute baby close ups.. Im a control freak so I can never cross the friend line. Im to afraid of what could happen when they are older.

It was hard to stay focused on your humor during this one due to those cute baby close ups..

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17212 Daphne Mon, 08 Feb 2010 01:39:04 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17212 yeah, well, that's sort of what I'm making fun of. I'm a stand in for the innappropriate mother, yet it's hard when that is who you see all the time. hence moms who are lonely...which is most of them. yeah, well, that’s sort of what I’m making fun of. I’m a stand in for the innappropriate mother, yet it’s hard when that is who you see all the time. hence moms who are lonely…which is most of them.

]]> By: Maegan http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17200 Maegan Sun, 07 Feb 2010 16:58:39 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17200 Maybe I'm alone in this...but NO, I do not think my kids should be my best friends. That is WAY too much pressure for a kid, even if you don't tell them! I know the dynamics of the relationship can change as your children become adults (my relationship with my mother changed)...but I see too many "friend" parents that have lost control of their kids, b/c they are no longer an authority figure to their kids! Maybe there are exceptions...I couldn't stand my mother. We both have strong personalities and big opinions...and that only made us fight while I lived at home. Once I moved out, once I had my OWN children...it was very different. She was no longer "large and in charge"...and I could leave her house when I could tell we weren't going to see eye to eye on something. I do see some parents and kids that get along together, even as teens, but I still see the same problems I had with my parents...and I also see a sense of entitlement in the kids like, "Well, I can do this b/c my mom is my friend...I don't have to act like a kid." Maybe I’m alone in this…but NO, I do not think my kids should be my best friends. That is WAY too much pressure for a kid, even if you don’t tell them!

I know the dynamics of the relationship can change as your children become adults (my relationship with my mother changed)…but I see too many “friend” parents that have lost control of their kids, b/c they are no longer an authority figure to their kids! Maybe there are exceptions…I couldn’t stand my mother. We both have strong personalities and big opinions…and that only made us fight while I lived at home. Once I moved out, once I had my OWN children…it was very different. She was no longer “large and in charge”…and I could leave her house when I could tell we weren’t going to see eye to eye on something.

I do see some parents and kids that get along together, even as teens, but I still see the same problems I had with my parents…and I also see a sense of entitlement in the kids like, “Well, I can do this b/c my mom is my friend…I don’t have to act like a kid.”

]]> By: Amy http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17182 Amy Sun, 07 Feb 2010 00:30:15 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17182 Yup, my three kids are among my best friends. Too bad they have to go and grow up on me. What will I do when my girls don't WANT to hang with their Mom?! Yup, my three kids are among my best friends. Too bad they have to go and grow up on me. What will I do when my girls don’t WANT to hang with their Mom?!

]]> By: Jill B. http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17175 Jill B. Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:22:15 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17175 Ha ha! "Do you wanna go get a drink?" As he gazes off. HILARIOUS! Ha ha! “Do you wanna go get a drink?” As he gazes off. HILARIOUS!

]]> By: Daphne http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17154 Daphne Sat, 06 Feb 2010 07:01:23 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17154 BFF by default, exactly! Yes, Frances, the trying to hard lady. All great comments, but I have to scream for a second ALEXANDRA WELCOME BACK. I have so missed you. I am so glad you didn't lose your house. Congrats!!! I was kind of worried about you. So was my mom she was afraid I had said something to offend you. I said, I don't think so mom, people can't come to my site all the time, they have lives. But, I was hoping to hear from you again. Best wishes! BFF by default, exactly! Yes, Frances, the trying to hard lady.

All great comments, but I have to scream for a second ALEXANDRA WELCOME BACK. I have so missed you. I am so glad you didn’t lose your house. Congrats!!! I was kind of worried about you. So was my mom she was afraid I had said something to offend you. I said, I don’t think so mom, people can’t come to my site all the time, they have lives.
But, I was hoping to hear from you again. Best wishes!

]]> By: Alisa Piette http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17144 Alisa Piette Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:26:25 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17144 Very funny, Daph, and oh so true. Gets better as they get bigger though, thank god. Very funny, Daph, and oh so true. Gets better as they get bigger though, thank god.

]]> By: Jean http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17131 Jean Fri, 05 Feb 2010 16:50:39 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17131 LOVE when Rex crawls over to the camera and then looks up at your cameraman!!! What a cutie! Yes, it's a fine line between being a pal and being a parent. I think both are doable, as long as one doesn't go too far in the friend direction. Then the parent role tends to backfire. And when they're little and we're home with them all day? They are our BFFs by default. Love your stuff, Daphne. Always funny. LOVE when Rex crawls over to the camera and then looks up at your cameraman!!! What a cutie!

Yes, it’s a fine line between being a pal and being a parent. I think both are doable, as long as one doesn’t go too far in the friend direction. Then the parent role tends to backfire. And when they’re little and we’re home with them all day? They are our BFFs by default.

Love your stuff, Daphne. Always funny.

]]> By: Frances http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17129 Frances Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:18:58 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17129 You're right Daphne, it's hard not to become "friends" with your kid (s) when you spend most of the day with them...as long as they don't know it.....LOL Let me explain, I wouldn't tell me daughter, "Ohhh you are my best friend, Gabriella!" b/c 1. I don't think she needs to know that, and 2. When she gets to be a teenager she'll tell me, "Mom, you're pathetic! Please get some friends of your own and leave me and MY friends alone!" I really don't want to hear those words in the future and I don't want to become THAT mom that at 50 is wearing Hannah Montana t-shirts and neon leggins...granted that Hannah Montana would still be arounf (which I highly doubt) but you know what I mean. My husband and his mom and very good friends and they talk about everything (I mean EVERYTHING) now, but I don't think he ever thought that her mom wasn't his "mom" you know? I think what's most important is letting your kids know that they can trust you and come to you for anything (judgement-free) but still knowing the fact that we are their parents and we deserve respect. Call me old school! LOL You’re right Daphne, it’s hard not to become “friends” with your kid (s) when you spend most of the day with them…as long as they don’t know it…..LOL Let me explain, I wouldn’t tell me daughter, “Ohhh you are my best friend, Gabriella!” b/c 1. I don’t think she needs to know that, and 2. When she gets to be a teenager she’ll tell me, “Mom, you’re pathetic! Please get some friends of your own and leave me and MY friends alone!”

I really don’t want to hear those words in the future and I don’t want to become THAT mom that at 50 is wearing Hannah Montana t-shirts and neon leggins…granted that Hannah Montana would still be arounf (which I highly doubt) but you know what I mean.

My husband and his mom and very good friends and they talk about everything (I mean EVERYTHING) now, but I don’t think he ever thought that her mom wasn’t his “mom” you know? I think what’s most important is letting your kids know that they can trust you and come to you for anything (judgement-free) but still knowing the fact that we are their parents and we deserve respect.

Call me old school! LOL

]]> By: Alexandra http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17127 Alexandra Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:28:25 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17127 Absolutely precious! I just finished watching this over and over. The most adorable vlog out there. I've got to link this out to my friends, who are long past this sweet baby stage. You would really enjoy this book I just finished, Daphne: "Surrendering to Motherhood." It's fantastically written, about how we can fight this mothering gig all the way or just decide to surrender and drink in all it's sweetness. Kind of like the charming college bartender/boyfriend. Anyhow, that's how I read the book :) I've missed your blogging so much, but I"m back: had to take a second job while my husband was laid off for one year to.the.day. Now, back to just my evening/weekend hours and my days are mine. It was tough for a while, but we didn't lose the house. But I was working FT in the week, then nights and weekends. It was tough..but I can't wait to stay in all day and just catch up on you. Absolutely precious! I just finished watching this over and over.

The most adorable vlog out there. I’ve got to link this out to my friends, who are long past this sweet baby stage.

You would really enjoy this book I just finished, Daphne: “Surrendering to Motherhood.” It’s fantastically written, about how we can fight this mothering gig all the way or just decide to surrender and drink in all it’s sweetness.

Kind of like the charming college bartender/boyfriend.

Anyhow, that’s how I read the book :)

I’ve missed your blogging so much, but I”m back: had to take a second job while my husband was laid off for one year to.the.day.

Now, back to just my evening/weekend hours and my days are mine. It was tough for a while, but we didn’t lose the house. But I was working FT in the week, then nights and weekends. It was tough..but I can’t wait to stay in all day and just catch up on you.

]]> By: Kristin Steiner http://coolmom.com/2010/02/05/bff/#comment-17126 Kristin Steiner Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:25:16 +0000 http://coolmom.com/?p=4730#comment-17126 That was very cute. But I have to agree. My daughter is my BFF. Especially when I was a single mom, we were so tight and I loved it. That's not to say I wouldn't whoop her butt if she needed it, but I feel like I can talk to her about anything. I don't, God NO! She's only 8 years old, I don't want to scar her for life, but it's nice to feel that way. I'm remarried now and pregnant again and I wonder if I will feel the same way about this new baby. Hard to imagine for me. Guess we'll have to wait and see. @BeingSuper That was very cute. But I have to agree. My daughter is my BFF. Especially when I was a single mom, we were so tight and I loved it. That’s not to say I wouldn’t whoop her butt if she needed it, but I feel like I can talk to her about anything. I don’t, God NO! She’s only 8 years old, I don’t want to scar her for life, but it’s nice to feel that way.

I’m remarried now and pregnant again and I wonder if I will feel the same way about this new baby. Hard to imagine for me. Guess we’ll have to wait and see.

@BeingSuper

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