…or girls STILL just wanna have fun.
Most women aspire to be partnered for life, but is that where the hi jinxs live? Even when you attain something you want – marriage, kids – the grass can occasionally seem greener. It’s like I was so broken hearted when we had to sell our home, but now that we rent and I see some maintnence issue I breathe a sigh of relief, “I don’t have to pay for it!” I’m not paying that property tax bill.
Single moms can feel like they have stink on them and not be included in couple outings. I love single moms. My husband works so much at night that I rely on them to be the gals who can go out for dinner or come over with their kids and eat with us. They don’t have to check in with the ball and chain. But, sometimes these pals are occupied. They are occupied with their new, cute boyfriends.
hmmmm
I love this post!
I used to be a single mom and while I went through all of those things you mentioned (financial hardship, rough divorce, having full custody of my daughter etc.), I look back on those days fondly, because I did have a new kind of freedom and it was very liberating. And I have to say that dating as a single mom was soooo much better than dating before I was married, had a kid and got divorced. I was just blunt, which is something I could never be before. Like if I went out with a guy and didn’t like him, I didn’t play the dodge his phone calls/ignore his emails game for the next two weeks. I just said, “Look, it was nice to meet you, but I’m not feeling this.” After all, I was a busy lady with a child and I didn’t have time for games.
And yes, I had some of those great dates you’re jealous of–once a boyfriend took me on a business trip then surprised me with a spa day (massage, facial, mani, pedi, hair, makeup), complete with new dress and chaperoned limosine. That night we had dinner and drinks at a fabulous restaurant and then some seriously fabulous sex.
But then I met my husband, and all I can say about him is that he is my Angel. And even though being single was a lot of fun sometimes, I wouldn’t trade him for the world. I actually recently wrote a post about this on my own blog (http://beingsuper.wordpress.com/2010/05/26/all-by-myself-dont-wanna-be/).
And in four weeks, we’re expecting a new addition to our family. Oh how times change…usually for the better.
@BeingSuper
ahhhh, great story!
I would love to be a divorced mom right now but only if I was going to be paid to be a divorced mom.
yes, if I was divorced with a sizable settlement
So much I could say, but not without getting into a whole lot a trouble!
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This is firmly why I refuse to let my friends refer to themselves as “single” moms while their husband are deployed. We can’t go out with out boyfriends or have sex willy nilly with interesting people we meet, lol! I am a tad jealous…