That has been one of the cornerstones of my life philosophy for the last, hmm, 10, 12 years. Can’t remember when that penny dropped, but had it not I don’t know that I ever could have gotten married. Knowing this helped me prep for marriage and not be as hard on my husband as I might have otherwise been. Even when he screws up and makes me crazy, I KNOW, they are ALL like that.
So, I did a video not that long ago called “raising boys”. It’s starting point was an essay written by a dad blogger, Thomas Matlack. Thomas got in touch with me afterward and we had a good phone discussion about being parts of blended families and other aspects of our domestic life. I really like his blog and his writing and he suggested we do a he said/ she said thing on his site. I brought up this “bitches/ checked out” thing and he liked it so this is our first foray.
Here is the link to the result of it. Love to know your thoughts. I hope we do more of them.
Enjoyed the give and take on this and the chance to see
Rex responding so beautifully to the male point of view.
It was fun to read your thoughts over on his site, and especially to see how the commenters reacted. Definitely, everyone has different marriages with different levels of give-and-take. My husband, like yours, works SO hard for really long hours. I’ve had to learn to accept certain chores and obligations as my own, whether they were my first choice or not. But he gives non-stop and enthusiastically in so many other ways, I’m a very lucky wife.
I’d love to see more of your interactions with Thomas Matlack in the future, the Good Men Project is a neat site.
WOW, that is wonderful, Daphne.’
I tweeted out and printed out his essay.
His words are spot on.
Clicking over now.
I’m a mother of a soon to be 23 year old and a 19 year old….girls! I have an exceptional relationship with them. I’ve been divorced 10 years and currently have no desire to get married. Why? For the reasons you both discuss and more!
There’s much more to be said about the relationship aspect of men and woman but the undeniable “work load” each take on is clear. Whether it’s because men just don’t see things or choose not to it has an absolute effect on the relationship over time.
Good info!
I am new to this whole parenting thing. I have been married for five years now. My wife and I have two lovely children. A four year old boy and two year old daughter. I have suddenly found myself in a weird, but extremely rewarding role in parenthood. I am the primary care giver of my wonderful children (lil devils). I play golf for a living, yes golf. I travel between three and five months a year. So, I am home with my kids seven to nine months. I hate saying stay at home dad, but it’s the truth, I know. My boy and I have some basic issues about how to treat his little sister. And we are struggling with listening issues around the house. I really want to be “The Cool Dad” I, however have no idea how to do that. So, I sort of feel like Rambo (shooting from the hip). Maybe, cool moms.com will be an enlightening change of pace from Dora, Wubbzy, and Yo Gabba Gabba. I swear I am losing IQ points every day. Help a struggling dad.