Have You Tried to Talk to This Person?

Sure you have. We all have because we ARE this person. Sometimes in my capacity as a restaurant co-owner/chef wife, I talk to tables, welcome them, make sure they are doing well. I don’t sit in their lap and overstay my welcome, but I’ve noticed that for some it’s fine to click away on their phone the whole time while I’m talking. Now, I get it if someone looks up and says, “A message from my boss. Sorry, just a sec.” ┬áBut I know sometimes it’s just the mindless scroll. Obviously, since they are patrons I pretend I don’t see it … kind of like you pretend to not hear a fart.

When I was shooting an internet show [I don’t want to use the real name. Let’s say it rhymes with ‘SerHey’], it was a running joke about how much the main host was on her smart phone. I know her and like her, but this was not good for team building and it was distracting to the work. One day I shared the “stage” with another rotating co-host and as we settled in on the set to do THE JOB WE ARE BEING PAID TO DO, she pulled out the smart phone and click, click, clack, clack. I grabbed it from her and flung it across the couch, “NO phones on set.” The entire crew cheered. I wish the producer had mandated this as a rule from the get go… seems like basic professionalism, but with a society of super involved folk, we need reminding. The gal I did this to took it the right way. “Oh, you are right, so used to that here.”

Later though she pulled it out AGAIN. I said something along the line of, “Come on!”

She said, “I’m emailing my agent (or manager). I’ve got nothing going on. I’ve got to get something going on.” Translation to those outside of showbiz, I only have two days of work this week and I’m hoping I’ve an audition, meeting, showcase to hopefully pay my rent and stop the voices in my head.

Me: “Look around. Do you think the camera guys, the PA getting the lunch are going, “Ah, I’ve made it, I’m working a couple days this week on an internet show NO ONE has heard of at a lousy rate.” We all want something else to be ‘going on’.

Thus, was the germ of this video play.

6 thoughts on “Have You Tried to Talk to This Person?

  1. Too right, sistah. The other thing that drives me batshit is people who cannot be bothered to get off their trival freakin’ phone call when they are going through any kind of checkout line. Sweet Baby Jesus on Rye Krisp! Stop your banal chatter long enough to engage the person who is trying their best to serve you as you flagrantly ignore them and degrade them by not even acknowledging their existence. I’m also buying a pocket air horn, for those assholes that insist on talking on their phones while maneuvering through parking garages. I’ve nearly been killed dozens of times by them.

  2. There needs to be some kind of new smartphone etiquette installed in us all. Like basic table manners and not talking with your mouth full.

  3. I admit I had never thought too much about this until my mother, who works as a bank teller, told me how awful it makes her feel when someone will not stop speaking or texting on their phone while she’s trying to do their transaction. She says it makes her feel inhuman and I can see why. I NEVER do it now.

  4. This so reminds me of a lunch I went to recently. My former boss took my Birthday Girl co-worker and another co-worker and I out.

    Wow, good times having her talk in her freaking phone or text the entire time. Kicking myself for not ordering us all copious rounds and appy’s while she was occupied.

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