Maybe it’s because the first episode of my new Cafe Mom series is about Dealing with other parents ( see below) or maybe because I had a great time at my son’s preschool today in a book club. We are reading “The Power of Play” by David Elkind. Which boils down to this, stop scheduling, turn off the TV and let your kid bang on some rocks. Whatever the reason, I have a new resolution.
The discussion among the few moms were in the group was that we react in play situations more out of peer pressure than what we believe. Unless a kid is pounding on another kid with a hammer, we’d rather the kids work it out.
Of the “that’s my bucket” variety.
But, fearing some mom is going to give us a hard time we step in often when we don’t want to. I got such a surge listening to these other moms I suddenly yelped, “I’m not going to make my kid say ‘sorry’.
Chorus of “Yes” ( in my heart I heard ‘Amen sister’) rang up from the tiny chairs we were seated in the pre school. If they don’t genuinely mean “sorry” it’s all bullshit anyway.
I’m not in junior high, what do I care what that mom at the park thinks of me? And fi I was a mom in junior high, how awkward. Another mom in our group said, “I’m going to say, ‘If you want to step in, you can, but that’s not how I want to handle it.’”
We decided we would be judged and disliked by some parents, but we were going to try it. I’ll you how it works.