I’m still with her

I’m still with her.  

But, I’m at a loss of what to say to my kids.  There is all the stuff any good parent says to their kids: “Be kind, be smart, do your homework, treat people with respect, do onto others, be humble, don’t grab women’s pussy’s.”  But, it rings hollow now because the guy who just got elected broke all those rules and is being richly rewarded.

for election watch party

for election watch party

Why did women vote for him?  You really think he will create jobs Michigan?  Why is he building a wall against Canada?

I am proud of Hillary Clinton.  She worked so hard.  She put up with abuse and ridicule that 99.9% would have crumbled under.  She came so very close.  She won the popular vote.  Last night I had hoped to sit between my mother and daughter and cheer the first ever female president of the US.  Instead I held my daughter and niece as they sobbed and my mom had already left saying “I can’t take it.”

my kids helping me make calls for Hillary two days before election

my kids helping me make calls for Hillary two days before election

By saying I’m with her I also mean I’m with people of color and immigrants, gays, handicapped, POW’s, my gosh, our Generals!  All the people President Elect Game Show host has insulted in his 18 month campaign.  

This morning as Vivien cried, “Mommy, what do we do?”  I said, “I don’t know.”   So, it was all the more helpful when Hillary talked right to her.

“To all the little girls watching…never doubt that you are valuable and powerful & deserving of every chance & opportunity in the world.”

We must keep reminding them this in the face of living in a country which elected a man who boasted about grabbing women’s privates, who condescended to Hillary all the time.  In the face of having watched the debates where she was vastly more articulate and informed than him and yet, she will not be the president.

Making history... voting in the morning.  Hopeful and wearing white for sufferagettes

Making history… voting in the morning. Hopeful and wearing white for sufferagettes

I‘m with her means I salute my mom, a life long feminist.  I was a little girl when the ERA wasn’t ratified and now, years later… sigh.. same old story.  The old white boys club.  The FBI, Trump, GOP and some misguided working class people who think he is their champion.

I resent that he is a guy who never did a day of community work in his life.  There is commitment to public service.  I’m wondering the point of all of mine.  I’m discouraged.

I’m with her because I’m not going to be a nice little girl and go away.  I’m a proud Nasty Woman and I’m staying that way.  History does not run on a smooth trajectory.  I know this election is on the wrong side of history, but we are on this zig zag nonetheless.   

I’m with her because I’m going to support my daughter and son to be feminists.  Who judge a person by the content of their character.  Brother, this President Elect is wanting in that department.

Would have been nice instead of talking about polls… that were wrong.. if the media had EVER done a compare and contrast with the candidates policies.  But, who am I kidding? It wouldn’t have changed the outcome in a society riddled with sexism and adoring of reality TV.

I was overjoyed that my country elected a man of color in ’08.  Yay!  My country isn’t as racist as I thought it was.  But, it is as sexist as I thought it was.  SEXISM RUNS THROUGH ALL COLORS AND CULTURES.  

I’m still in shock.  A cross between being jilted, a death, a bit of 9/11, of “what world is this?” feeling.  But, when I manage to wash my hair again I hope to have a plan.  Because a big part of me wants to become a hermit and live deep in Michigan.. if only to vote in the next election.

11 thoughts on “I’m still with her

  1. Thank you so much for this. I needed it. It’s taken me all day to be able to read words about this and yours could have been my own. As the mother of a transgender daughter and Iranian American children this is especially painful for me, They should not have to live in fear in this country.

  2. Daphne, thank you for your words. I read them aloud to my daughter who, like me, is grieving and gutted. This hurts so bad but your eloquence helps.

    • because the founding fathers were afraid of a demagouge, so put in this system to blunt that. Didn’t work this time! Also, Jefferson said democracy can and should be adjusted with the times. Think now is the time

  3. I feel your pain. I’ve been crying for three days. And now just teared up again. I don’t know what the answer is right now. I know I’ll get my nasty back…soon.

  4. It really is an emotional time for the country. However, Christmas season is here so there’s something to be happy about. Maybe you’ll be interested in checking out Kidioke sing-along music playing story book for kids, perfect gifts to bring holiday cheer to little kids.

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