News of the day on Mid Morning with Cool Mom and Rex

I don’t have to be on “The View” or “The Talk” to get into hot topics.     I do have the cutest sidekick in the biz who has great comic timing.  Rex and I shot this before I had my breakfast.  We had a lot to discuss.    I like to do a bit more old school talk show.  Mike Douglas, Dick Cavett, Merv Griffin.  They didn’t just have actors on but occasionally had on people with real thoughts and ideas.

I just wish I had a key light.

Stay at home moms are screwed

Did you see that piece last week in the Sunday NY Times?  About 40 something moms trying to regain footing the job market.  It was depressing.  These woman had taken 10 years off.  The most I didn’t work was one year, yet, my jets have cooled a bit the last couple of years so this article scared the shit out of me.

If you went to an Ivy league college and kept up with your contacts it might not be so bad for you.  But, for the 99% of us the message seems to be, don’t quit your day job.

But, which one?  That’s the pain the modern mom continues to struggle with.

local councils, Oh the glory!

I’m a board member of our Neighborhood Council.  Volunteer, natch, but we are given a budget by the City to do things for our area, we have to take really dull webinars like a city worker with a paycheck and benefits and supposedly we have the ear of City Hall.

Long story short, some guys with gusto came to our council to get funding for surveillance cameras in a local park.  It is a mixed area.  Lots of families, normal, good park activities and couple of gang shootings a year.  The police always tell us, “It’s so much better than it was”.  Which it is. Here I am recently in said park on National Night Out.  I was getting people to sign up to get emails about our council.  If they did I gave them a t-shirt, a flashlight or a reusable grocery bag.  Some of them thought they could just get the t-shirt without hearing from me about their neighborhood council.

They were wrong.

So, I felt that our council member, Herb Wesson should have listened to these local heroes when they emailed his field deputy about this issue. Crickets.  We only get so much dough a year so I don’t want to fund all things that cross our desk, and didn’t we give the council man some scratch for movies in the park? I’m also still waiting for my stop signs.. another story.   Cut to: we fund half and I say I will help them contact the council office for the other half.

Then 3 weeks of my life was spent lobbying, email, phone calls. My favorite was the one from the field deputy Vincent , “Thanks Debra, do you have a number I can reach you.”   Yeah, my name is not Debra, but here is my number.  He never called.  Some headway with his boss, high up deputy, not enough.  Went the Mayor route, which looked promising, but our council meeting was now coming up and I felt the momentum would be to fund or dump the project.  Frankly, it was less than 6 grand and there was a thick petition to go with the request.

A friend of a friend is in this HILarious video that takes place in a city council meeting.  It bears some resemblance to the dynamic of these groups. Good satire

The night of the meeting Wesson’s rep Sylvia Lacey was there.  Now, if you have ever been involved in a board meeting or city gov’t NOTHING runs zip, zip along, so it’s hard to break this down and give you, the reader info, and not want to stick a fork in your head at the pace of things.  Bottom line, the council voted to be contingency funding for the cameras if the council office couldn’t “find the money”.  I was also able to bring to Syliva’s attention that our community was feeling like they weren’t being heard… or called back.  She wrote down our laundry list of issues, from problems with their website to badly placed traffic lights.

This has a happy ending.  Two days later the council office funded it.  I was so relieved as I didn’t have the time to start the recall my council member campaign ( must cancel that T-shirt order).   I have other unpaid projects to work on.

 

kid pundit

Kate is pregnant, fiscal cliff, these kind of big issues need to be addressed by a serious roundtable. Or someone at a roundtable. An oblong table. Someone sitting.

Last Sunday I was so disappointed by the rubes the political shows had on.  I figured my 7 year old would be a better pundit.  So, I saw my chance on a recent outing to a play space.

if I was in Ireland I would be dead

sorry not funny this one…

A few years ago if I was in Ireland I would have died.

I would have never went on to have Rex.  My daughter would be raised without a mother.

My husband would be a widower.

When I was about 16 weeks pregnant when I miscarried.  The woman in Ireland who died had miscarried at 17 weeks. The first couple of days I didn’t feel that different physically.  Emotionally I was a wreck. The baby to be was a little girl.  They had said she was healthy.  I had made a long list of names. We had told my stepchildren about her.

Guided by denial and bad advice I didn’t immediately get a D and C.  Instead I hemorrhaged in the Ferry Building in San Francisco, in a hotel, in Napa.  I wore 3 adult diapers on the flight back home, after my doctor screamed at me to come home, that were soaked with blood.  I went into a very painful labor.

I was rushed to the ER.  I have NEVER felt that kind of pain.  I was screaming, “please help me, please help me.” as I was put under.  I woke up hours later still screaming for help, but  soon realized the absence of pain in my body.  The absence of the fetus that was going to be my second daughter. I didn’t mourn her at that moment, I was so happy to be free of pain and alive.  I was hooked up to a packet of blood.  I had lost so much blood I was getting transfusions ( thank you nameless people who donated your blood).

I was very weak.  People needed to help me with Vivien.  I was also starting to get very emotional about having lost the baby.

the video I did about the aftermath back in ’08 

However, I was alive.  I lived and because of that Rex lived.

IF I was in Ireland I could have died, or any of the backward countries who put religion, politics, and all the rest disguised misogyny BEFORE the health of a women.

IF you have not yet read the story of this woman  who died in Ireland, please do so now. This is a human rights issue.  The media is making me CRAZY.  They say she was denied an “abortion”.  That is a political term for dilation and curattage.  She had had a miscarriage.  The doctors refused to do a D and C.  This lovely woman could have been like me.  She could have lived. She could have gone on to have a healthy pregnancy.

I’m so glad I live in America.  I’m so glad that we have an awareness of not letting religion dominate our laws.  Have the Anti Choice brigade made inroads to limit reproductive freedom here like in Kansas?  Yes, sadly they have.  It’s up to us to make sure that it doesn’t go further.

A doctor should do what he needs to do in order to save his patient.  Not to please a deity.

 

Coolio’s just topical videos

Okay, I made it harder this year, sorry, but let’s streamline the process.  I have cut out two of the nominees because they have gotten no votes and or lower views.  So, Here watch the remaining choices for BEST TOPICAL COOL MOM VIDEO OF 2011. The in the COMMENT section say which one you like.  On Thursday I will do the same for the Overal Funny Category.  Okay.  So now, click play.

Thank you

The Coolios 2011! The Cool Mom Awards

Did you think awards season was over? Oh, no.  Enough with the Oscars and those other amateurs.  Now it’s time to judge the best of a tiny web series made in a women’s house!!

It’s time for the 2nd annual Cool Mom Awards.  Now, this is will require you do a little work, but it will be fun!  I need you to look at three playlist. They will go quickly and since this is the best of the best of Cool Mom I think you will enjoy it. Perhaps you missed some over the last year. Now, is your chance to catch up on the best of Cool Mom.  The nominees were based on  very scientific subjective criteria.

1) video views

2) comments

3) what still made me and my producer Michelle laugh.

Okay, watch this vid and then click on the playlists and VOTE.  Please leave your votes here.

We are all stars!!
BEST TOPICAL
( about 14 min)

Best Videos with Mark ( about 3 min)

BEST OVERALL FUNNY
(running time about 9 min)

I’m hoping for a star studded award show when the winner’s are announced!!!

Please vote for your faves in the three categories.  Enjoy watching the best of Coolmom’11.  I know I did!

Thanks.