A friend said, “When you have one child, it’s all about the first born, then when you have a second, it’s all about the first born.”
So I decided Rex needed something that was just for him for a change. Not his sister or his dad taking him along to the restaurant, or mom dragging him along to work or exercising or what she needed to do, but just him. Although he does enjoy the post workout time with the babies and moms at Stroller Strides.
By the time Vivien was 6 weeks old she had been attending four classes and was ready to teach one at the Learning Annex (maybe that’s overstating it, I don’t know, those days are a blur) But, with Rex, I’ve held off. Partly due to money and also I just didn’t see the need.
But he is almost walking and getting very active. So I took him to Fit for kids, a place that Viv had enjoyed as a kid. It’s a big, safe, carpeted room and the babies can amble around the ramps and slides while fun music plays.
It’s adult music like 80’s tunes and classic rock. Not kiddie music, which helps parents not go koo-koo. After the initial free play there is a circle time…a generic term for forming a circle and at some point singing and/or clapping. Then the instructors lead the kids through obstacle courses or bring out push toys. When they get older there is a mini zip line and more complex activities.
Rex loved it. He loved looking at everyone and trying to go up the slide and he loved when he went through the facilitated tumbling. But most of all the value was that he was in a large room. So much of his life now is being hemmed in or being steered away from something he shouldn’t touch, well here he could push a plastic lawn mower across a room the length of our house and nothing would break. You have to watch out for the toddlers who might bonk one another, but they have little chubby arms so it’s not that hard.
I ran into a friend of a friend which was nice, and best of all there is a place that sells espresso across the street, which I think is a key to motherhood. I remember when I took these classes with Vivien I was a tad lonely.
And I use to want the other mommies to be my friend. Never really happened. But, now that I do have parent friends, strangely, everyone seemed so friendly. Maybe I was needy.