On Momversation: Where Do Babies Come From?

In this episode of Momversation, Heather Armstrong from dooce.com has a vexing problem: How do you tell your 4-year-old about how the baby you’re carrying got there in the first place? I know what I’d say – I’m kind of nuts and bolts – but I’m curious to hear what other moms would say. In a pinch, Heather came up with a good cover story you can remember, as well.

What Not To Say

This vlog is not a knee-slapper. But I wanted to reach out to the women who have gone through a miscarriage, like I did.

Like so many things in life, you can’t totally relate unless you’ve gone through it. If I had thought about it before it happened to me, I don’t think I would have felt as bad as I did. I couldn’t talk about it for a while. But, as I lay in the recovery room of the hospital (since I not only had a miscarriage, but hemorrhaged badly and had to have a blood transfusion), the nice nurse told me she had four miscarriages before having her child. Geez! I don’t think I could have handled that. She seemed so plucky, too.

It seemed people came out of the woodwork with their own tales of loss. People have had worse hits than my own, like the women who have to give birth to a stillborn child. Just heart-breaking.

But if you haven’t gone through something like a miscarriage and are not sure what to say to someone who has, take a listen. And if you have gone through it, I’m sorry, and I think you will relate to this.

I’ll always miss my angel.