I’m still with her

I’m still with her.  

But, I’m at a loss of what to say to my kids.  There is all the stuff any good parent says to their kids: “Be kind, be smart, do your homework, treat people with respect, do onto others, be humble, don’t grab women’s pussy’s.”  But, it rings hollow now because the guy who just got elected broke all those rules and is being richly rewarded.

for election watch party

for election watch party

Why did women vote for him?  You really think he will create jobs Michigan?  Why is he building a wall against Canada?

I am proud of Hillary Clinton.  She worked so hard.  She put up with abuse and ridicule that 99.9% would have crumbled under.  She came so very close.  She won the popular vote.  Last night I had hoped to sit between my mother and daughter and cheer the first ever female president of the US.  Instead I held my daughter and niece as they sobbed and my mom had already left saying “I can’t take it.”

my kids helping me make calls for Hillary two days before election

my kids helping me make calls for Hillary two days before election

By saying I’m with her I also mean I’m with people of color and immigrants, gays, handicapped, POW’s, my gosh, our Generals!  All the people President Elect Game Show host has insulted in his 18 month campaign.  

This morning as Vivien cried, “Mommy, what do we do?”  I said, “I don’t know.”   So, it was all the more helpful when Hillary talked right to her.

“To all the little girls watching…never doubt that you are valuable and powerful & deserving of every chance & opportunity in the world.”

We must keep reminding them this in the face of living in a country which elected a man who boasted about grabbing women’s privates, who condescended to Hillary all the time.  In the face of having watched the debates where she was vastly more articulate and informed than him and yet, she will not be the president.

Making history... voting in the morning.  Hopeful and wearing white for sufferagettes

Making history… voting in the morning. Hopeful and wearing white for sufferagettes

I‘m with her means I salute my mom, a life long feminist.  I was a little girl when the ERA wasn’t ratified and now, years later… sigh.. same old story.  The old white boys club.  The FBI, Trump, GOP and some misguided working class people who think he is their champion.

I resent that he is a guy who never did a day of community work in his life.  There is commitment to public service.  I’m wondering the point of all of mine.  I’m discouraged.

I’m with her because I’m not going to be a nice little girl and go away.  I’m a proud Nasty Woman and I’m staying that way.  History does not run on a smooth trajectory.  I know this election is on the wrong side of history, but we are on this zig zag nonetheless.   

I’m with her because I’m going to support my daughter and son to be feminists.  Who judge a person by the content of their character.  Brother, this President Elect is wanting in that department.

Would have been nice instead of talking about polls… that were wrong.. if the media had EVER done a compare and contrast with the candidates policies.  But, who am I kidding? It wouldn’t have changed the outcome in a society riddled with sexism and adoring of reality TV.

I was overjoyed that my country elected a man of color in ’08.  Yay!  My country isn’t as racist as I thought it was.  But, it is as sexist as I thought it was.  SEXISM RUNS THROUGH ALL COLORS AND CULTURES.  

I’m still in shock.  A cross between being jilted, a death, a bit of 9/11, of “what world is this?” feeling.  But, when I manage to wash my hair again I hope to have a plan.  Because a big part of me wants to become a hermit and live deep in Michigan.. if only to vote in the next election.

Moving Forward: Clinton and Obama

Okay, I’ve got to get into this. All this bad blood amongst Hillary supporters. I was a big HRC fan and gave her the max, traveling to Texas to help her campaign. The more I saw of her, the better I think she got. (Except for that sniper-fire thing, which I still can’t figure out.)

Hillary Clinton primaries

I was positively cross-eyed over the meanness of many liberal media types: Keith Olbermann, various pundits on CNN, most of Air America, Randi Rhodes (who broadcasts like she is in a bar fight), Stephanie Miller (whom I’ve worked with and liked, but had to stop listening to). I felt like, “Hey guys, I’m with you on most issues, so why are you trashing my girl and half of the Democratic party?”

Likewise, I felt totally abandoned by MoveOn.org , which decided to support Obama in the primary, and worst of all NARAL. I wrote letters to both asking them to take me off of any future contacts. NARAL totally disrespected Clinton by not waiting two freaking weeks to the end of the primary so they could endorse Obama. Why? Did they think he wouldn’t want their support in two weeks? As I said back then, for the general election, he would court women more than he had when he was single. And all the sexism in the media had me enraged, not only as a feminist but also as the mother of daughter.

I bring this all up because I understand the anger from the hardcore Hillary email group I am part of… I get it, but to a point. I agree the DNC is lame. That the caucus system disenfranchises poor, frail, older voters (saw that up close in Texas) and the frustration of the proportional delegates (if they had winner-takes-all, Hillary would have won). But that’s the game and Obama’s camp played it better.

I am all for reforming the rules. But I am not for voting for McCain or Nader. I understand people don’t want to be taken for granted, but it hints at a naivete I associated with some of the Obama supporters, i.e., the belief that he wasn’t a typical politician, etc. Well, he’s not typical – he’s a very good politician, which is why he is where he is. But he is playing the system, not changing it.

Look, Hillary is no saint, she’s a tough-ass politician, and so is he. He’s gotten tougher in this race, which is good. I don’t care squat about the lobbyist money nonsense because 1) they are not a monolithic group and 2) the system by necessity calls for pols to compromise. Try getting a majority of 300 million people to vote for you and see how far you’d get. They have to please everyone.

So look, disgruntled HRC fans, I get the rancor. But seriously, let’s move forward. She is. And I love not feeling guilty because I’m not cold-calling other states for votes. Relieved that is over. And let’s not forget the lady needs to get her debt down. I love that Obama wrote her a check for $4,600.

I was doing a bit in my stand up last fall and winter that the Dems could put up a bacteria that has no name and I would vote for it, because after what the Republicans have given us in the last seven years, they deserve to be punished. And the Supreme Court is too important to hold a grudge.

So can I vote for Obama? Dare I say it… Yes, I can.