I think part of being a good parent is embracing your dorkiness. I was just at the park with Vivien for her sports class, and I had on a navy hoodie, brown velvet sweat pants, and worn sneakers. No makeup, no shower (hey, bath the night before). One dad strode into the park with newsboy cap, leather blazer and posture that said, “These kids haven’t beaten me down!” I thought I wish I had an outfit on. I wish I had clothes that match. But, then again, why? I’m chasing after Rex crawling through the grass and sand. I’m lugging a bag over my shoulders full of snacks, water and diapers. A bag that would ruin the line of any stylish outfit. So, why bother? Why not just be covered and utilitarian and embrace it.
Yeah, I don’t dress up, I’m in momcognito.
Yeah, my roots are deep, and my nails are jagged because I’m too tired or too busy to leave my kids to attend to that.
And yeah, when I go to work ,my motherhood can betray my attempt at professionalism.
Have you ever had a moment like this at work?
I’ve been asked to be the spokesperson for Upromise World MasterCard for Bank of America. It’s not something I’m doing on this site. I’m going to blog on their Facebook page and do some interviews where I talk about mom blogging and Upromise and Mastercard. I am NOT being paid to write what I am writing right now. I am being paid to do the media interviews and the Facebook blogging. Just so we are all FTC clear.
When I asked if I would do this. I was like, Uh, duh, why not? It’s not like selling bullets. or those who haven’t heard of it, www.Upromise.com is a site where you sign up and become a member. There are participating merchants, and if you buy something from them on that site, they kick a few percentages (anywhere from 1 to 25%) to a 529 for your child’s education. Or to paying down a student loan. So, now there is a credit card that gives you 1% of everything you charge to the 529. That’s the gist. So, since I am interested myself in rebuilding our savings, I thought it seemed like a great product to be talking about. And it’s fun to see who you can get money back from.
Just looping you all in on one of my jobs so if you see my twitters you’ll know what it is about. I did the first part of the media tour this morning, which means talking to people on the phone in my nightgown. I really enjoy that part. When I’ve been on a show that had some wind at its back, I have done interview after interview. It’s pretty fun. I especially like talking to radio hosts since that’s my old line of work; I get what they need… funny, concise, energy… and I have an appreciation for anyone who can still make a living in that medium that is so dominated by syndication. I talk a lot about Cool Mom and then let them know about the opportunities with Upromise Master Card and Upromise.
Well, it’s not exactly are you stressed out. I think our guest Lisa Belkin from the NY Times sums it up well when she speaks of compromise. Of course I think I’m witty, but that’s just me!
Sidebar: do you think dads are ever asked how they balance it all?
For the last few years I’ve been doing an online show for Fox.com called “24 inside.” It’s for the fans of “24.” We shoot a few shows a year where I interview the cast and crew of the suspense-filled show. Sometimes we go on the set, and the other night I went to their premiere. Now, I might be in danger for saying this, but I have already watched 21 out of the 24 hours of the new season! I think it is the best season since season 4. They are finally out of LA; how many times can terrorist threaten Van Nuys?
The cast and crew are always nice to me. If you go to the website, you can see me interviewing back to season 3. The first show I did was with Carlos Bernard and his onscreen wife. We were doing our own studio show in the valley, in the heat of the summer, and the AC was not up and running. So, you will notice the actors and me starting to melt.
At the red carpet event the other night, the producers were all, “Hey you are pregnant again, congrats!” My opening line with Kiefer was that he was a parent at the school my stepson attends. Little parental ice breaker. Mary Lynn Rajskub (Chloe) looked great. She has a five month old, and she couldn’t believe I was so close to delivering. We were gabbing mom talk in this junket room full impatient publicists clicking away on their Blackberrys. I finally had to start asking her about the show.
Later at the red carpet for the show debut I had to play fan with Jon Voight, Oscar winner. I told him how much I loved Coming Home. He was very nice and asked me how many kids I have. “Good for you,” he said as we parted. I was not one of the tacky reporters who asked him about Angelina. He was there to promote his show, and it just seemed childish and invasive.
As I drove from one interview location to the party with my makeup artist TC, we realized we were having fun. I was so glad to be working again after weeks of no work, and I NEVER get out. TC agreed, “I’d be home with my dogs.” Great to get dolled up even if it’s to only go to the outside of a party.
Another of the ongoing myths placed on modern humans is that it’s great to work at home. Yes, you use less gas, but it’s hard to tell your family to shut their pie holes when your office is in the middle of the kitchen. Kids and husbands are heat-seeking missiles. They sense a life force, and they come for you…
I find inspiration from a sitcom from my youth.
I never thought I would say this, but Yeah, MY work is having a holiday party, and I AM invited!! In this economy, I’m thrilled. I was cut out of their Emmy party because of cost-cutting measures, and it looks like the order of my show is going to reduced next year. So any sign of viable work, and my participation in it, is most welcome.
photo credit: stuartpilbrow
A while back, I asked people if they were feeling the economic downturn. Back then, only about 1/3 said yes. Well, I bet it’s more now. I know it is around here. Feels a little scary.
Glad to have a reason to put on a pretty dress.