Stay at home moms are screwed

Did you see that piece last week in the Sunday NY Times?  About 40 something moms trying to regain footing the job market.  It was depressing.  These woman had taken 10 years off.  The most I didn’t work was one year, yet, my jets have cooled a bit the last couple of years so this article scared the shit out of me.

If you went to an Ivy league college and kept up with your contacts it might not be so bad for you.  But, for the 99% of us the message seems to be, don’t quit your day job.

But, which one?  That’s the pain the modern mom continues to struggle with.

Tis the season.. for mucus and barf

Viv woke up sounding like Brenda Vaccaro.

No, she wasn’t telling me about the attributes of Tampax, but a throaty voice that would make Ashton Kutcher turn around to see if his estranged wife was in the room.  Took her to the doctor, no strep. Decided she needed a strawberry shake as salve.  When we got home  I sat down and fell asleep for 90 minutes. Not normal that I fall asleep like that in the afternoon.  I wake up to Rex vomiting.   At one point Rex climbed up to the toilet seat.  He can get his entire body on the seat. I tried to move him back to the bed.
“No, mommy.”  I know, kid sometimes you just feel the need to be near the toilet.  I sat next to him and he started to snore.  I waited a few minutes till he was deeper asleep and then I moved him.  So, glad he stayed asleep.

While I lay next to him hearing him snore like a middle aged man, I read “Below Stairs”.  A memoir of a British maid that inspired Downton Abbey and Upstairs, Downstairs.  Spoiler alert, in real life they don’t like their bosses like they do in Downton Abbey. Good read.

Viv is back at school today.  Rex is all better, but keeping him home.  I really don’t know how full time working parents do this without full time help. A servent in jolly old England, forget it.  No wonder Edith turned to the streets.   Since I’m under employed right now I can lay next to my baby and rub his back all day if needed.  Course at some point I need to bring some money in here.

Maybe I could sell tampons?

 

lay off the working moms

Enough!  I read about two lines of this story about the new CEO at Yahoo  in the Sunday NY Times before I dropped it back to the breakfast table.  I was irked for myself for thinking, yeah, how is she going to have that baby and have such a high powered job?

MEN HAVE DONE IT FOR YEARS. Does anyone ask if Rupert Murdoch was “there” for his kids?  Bill Gates? Idi Amin? No.

When Rex was born I did not have a high powered exec job, I was hosting a basic cable show about fashion.  But, if I didn’t show up I didn’t get paid.  So, when he was 9 days old I went to work.

9 DAYS LATER I WAS BACK AT WORK

After a C section, I couldn’t drive.  My co host Lawrence Zarian drove me and my sister Carole picked me up.  I was exhausted, but I did it.

Enough with the “having it all” line.  What does that mean? Define your terms?  Marriage, baby and work?  Yes, many can have that all.  But, does that mean you aren’t tired, stressed, annoyed with your kids and husband because you are stretched thin? No, sure doesn’t.

Good for Marissa Mayer taking her big time job and popping a kid out.  She will have hired help and maybe her husband is helpful  ( my husband just forgot to pick up our son at school) and she will have to juggle like the rest of us who don’t make millions.

Please one story about “how can a man go back to work right after the birth of a child?”  How does dad balance “having it all”.

 

My son wants nothing to do with me

It’s painful when your son rejects you.  I mean me, rejects ME.  But, one day after I had gone out for exercise and errand running I came back home expecting to send our beloved baby sitter Dolly packing ( you can hear her Bolivian accent early on) and spend quality time with my son.

It didn’t go down like that.  She stayed longer as he WANTED NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.  Months have gone by since we shot this.  I have felt very loved by son most of the time.  But, this morning he screamed for Dolly again.  I called her and as she was headed to another gig nearby she dropped by for a few minutes.  I’m glad I found someone who he likes so much.

Really.

Really, I am.

Have your ever been rejected by your kids?

Foul Mouth At Work

I had a dream last night that I was in a room with Bill Clinton, and I asked him if he wanted to have a liaison (although in the dream, I said it in a more crude manner). He turned me down! Instead of thinking he had learned his lesson, reinvested in his marriage, and didn’t want to embarrass his wife anymore, I thought, “Oh God, I must really look like hell. I have really let myself look bad if Bill Clinton won’t hit this!”

Sometimes we can see the changes this motherhood thing makes in you, and so many other times, they slowly creep up on you. It even affects how I am at work, hence the need for this vlog about foul language at work.

Don’t Hug Me

Fresh on the heels of a working mom being the first ever woman on a Republican presidential ticket, here is a workingwoman issue. Being touched at work. I don’t mean in a sexual harassment kind of way. This isn’t the kind of touching that’s going to bring a lawsuit or make anyone cry. But, how do you feel with touchy feely co-workers? Maybe it’s a California thing…

Mommy Gossip

Moms rarely every gossip about clothes or anything men see as the sport of gals. It’s worse – we are judging your parenting. The mommy judge brain is always sizing up the children and their parents, especially those that moms who never come to their kid’s classes or extra curricular activities.

Look, sometimes those classes are dull, but I really like seeing how Vivien grows and develops. And since I put her in dance class, I think I have to make an equal commitment to it. Unless of course I am staying home to make mad, passionate love to my husband. Huh, psych!